2006-08-18 06:22:42 · 16 answers · asked by qwerty 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ah gee, empty nest syndrome...so painful! I've sent 3 kids off to college. It's like this instant "change of life" happening. A whole section of your life that you put so much into and was your whole world is now over. You are used to seeing them everyday and now they have grown up and are gone....even tho YOU still know they are kids, in the real world they are adults. It's a big world and you won't be there to help them and protect them. Just get a grip and go with the flow. Be happy that your child is doing so well and trust that everything he has learned in life will help him be on his own and he will make it just as you have always dreamed of. There will be some bumps in the road (a few expensive ones, ha!) but, as the next few the years go by your love and pride for them will just bloom more. Until then just send little surprises in the mail everyday if you want (my youngest one was so homesick that he called me crying and wanted to come home....this big strong athletic hunk of a fine young man; my baby, ha!). This too shall pass. It's all good!!!! He isn't going off to war. He isn't sick or other bad things. He made it to college. Do cartwheels down the street, breathe, focus on yourself and YOUR new life and all those things you were gonna do someday and keep setting a good example. Now for a joke to cheer you up, I will tell you what my older sister always told me...."Don't worry. They come back and there's more of them". LOL So true, so true. My kids are now 25, 28, and 29. Remember! You can never brag too much. Now, go pamper yourself and bake your mailman some of those cookies you are about to mail off. The mailman is about to be your new best friend, lol. You are not alone. Just remember that.
2006-08-18 07:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by fishermanswife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit late to worry about your son being so far away. Should have thought about a college closer to home. Sounds like you need to start cutting the apron strings. If your son is a freshman in college then he's probably about 18 or 19 years old and it's time for him to grow up and start becoming a man.
If you are not employed, get a job, even if it's someplace like Burger King. It will help to be distracted from the "empty nest" syndrome. Start an exercise program, walking, riding a bike or joining a gym. Join or start a bridge or canasta club.
Look for some good books or ones that you have planned to read but never got around to it.
Seek counseling. Many areas have a social services department that have MSWs on staff. It may help to talk to someone.
Don't make the mistake that some parents make by trying to keep your adult child too close to you. Your son is not a little boy anymore and you need to give him some space to grow up. Let him make his own mistakes but just be there when he comes to you for advice or help.
2006-08-18 06:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Your son has already proven himself to be a good student and a responsible person who knows how to study. Trust him to take this next step in life. Give him a gift card with a dollar amount you can afford to use for emergencies or essentials, a cell phone (prepaid) to contact you and maybe some post cards and stamps. Tell him to enjoy this exciting new venture and to stay in touch. Try not to show your separation anxiety.
Then YOU go out and find some activities that you may enjoy. So many parents don't have the reward of seeing their children progress in this manner after all their hard work. Enjoy this wonderful time. You are not sending him off to war, just to school!
2006-08-18 06:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be proud of yourself for raising a good boy who is going to gollege to better himself! Be joyful so he won't worry about you while he is away. Help him celebrate starting his own life! Make lots of phone calls and send lots of e-mails. Show you are excited for him and that you are proud of him. Don't worry, he'll keep you a part of his life, and will continue loving you. You have to comfort yourself knowing you did a good job raising him and that he will be back on breaks and prob. for the summer! We all have to let go, it'll be ok, I promise.
2006-08-18 06:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you cope with a loved one joining the jehovahs witnesses? You should be happy for them, as they are now in the true religion. :)
2016-03-26 20:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, He is a grown adult now and it's time to let him venture out on his own
2006-08-18 20:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotionaly let him go and stop being so protective.
2006-08-18 06:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by kekeke 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One day you have to say goodbye. Take it as credit to you for doing a good job that he is confident enough not to have to hide behind you.
2006-08-18 06:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I got this friend that can help you. His name is Jack Daniels.
2006-08-18 06:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by mshart2 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
text message and email. and send a few bucks on a basic
2006-08-18 06:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by twan20ace 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋