Did you have a terrible Father or none at all?

Question

I was asked to re-post this again.

If you never had a father or you had a horrible one, I know those feelings you have, I know the empty feeling and the "missing piece" you feel in your life. Mine was an abusive drunk beyond belief. If this is you I'd like to share what I have learned with you. There is nothing wrong with you, what happened to you was not because of you. I know the fear of having children, I too had that fear. Give your children what we so desperatly wanted from our own fathers..you know what that is because it's the very thing we craved and never recieved. LOVE them, crazy Love them, Love them without hesitation and I promise you it will be returned a 1000 times over. Love them lavishly, Love them extravagantly, not with money..your heart and time. You already know what to do...you remember what you dreamed of. I've rasied 3 beauitful wonder children who walked in love everyday day of their lives with me. DON"T FEAR...use the pain, LOVE NEVER FAILS!

agreed?

Answer 1

Amen! I had a stepfather who sexually molested me and for many years, I felt cheated. I felt I deserved to have a loving daddy who would help me to feel safe and love me unconditionally. As I grew older and learned more about God, I began to realize that I do have the very best Father I could ever hope for. Praise God! He comforts me, He loves me unconditionally, He gives me peace and makes me feel safe! And, best of all, He accepted me the way I was and He forgives me over and over! Praise God! And God bless you, my friend!

Answer 2

I had a wonderful Father when I was growing up. When my mom passed away, I learned lots of different things about my dad. He was an Alcoholic (my mom hid all of this from us and did a fantastic job of it). He became very difficult to deal with and after I moved away from home I realized that I was SO angry with him, I attended Adult children of Alcoholics meetings and they really helped. My dad re-married to a woman who basically pours the booze down his throat. I don't even know where my dad is anymore, I haven't spoken with him in many years, my children ask about him frequently. So I guess the wonderful Father I thought I had, wasn't all that after all. But I still have my memories. God will take care of us from here on out.

Answer 3

I'm sorry for what you endured as a child. What a blessing that you've been able to learn from it and know that you wanted to be the best father possible. You said it well! All children deserve unconditional love! God bless you and your children!

Answer 4

I'm glad you did what you did. So many people repeat the same stuff with another generation.

But remember that God can be your Father and will make up for all you went thru, if you give Him a chance.

Answer 5

i have a truly terrible father and i wish he could hear what you said about loving your children but i doubt it would get thorough to him if i cant

Answer 6

I loved my father very much. He died last March.

Answer 7

Agreed...

Answer 8

Um, thanks. So, I'm a lesbian. You still think I should have a kid? Because it wasn't really in my game plan, but if you think I should...

Answer 9

terrible

Answer 10

both.