I am 12 years old and I am really depressed right now because my mom and sister keep on fighting and I get really upset. And now I am thinking of going anorexic because I am sorta fat and if I DO go anorexic then my sis and mom would stop fighting but then its bad.
HELP
2006-08-18 06:14:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
And also I tried cutting but it didnt help my depression.
2006-08-18 06:17:16 · update #1
Oh honey!! Stop thinking! Seriously, if you're unhappy with your weight, you should excercise and eat healthy. Your body, I'm sure is still holding onto "baby fat". You will grow and change. Just give yourself some time. As far as your mom and sis fighting, you can't control either one of them. If it's causing stress and anxiety in your life, maybe you could find some extra curricular activities to do. Go to a friend's house and chill. Maybe you could ask your mom to look into a program called Big Brothers/ Big Sisters. It is a fun program where a volunteer meets up with you like once a week or so and you guys go have fun and hang out and stuff. I had one when I was young. That would certainly take your mind off all of the negative stuff. As far as the cutting goes, it doesn't rectify any situation. It won't change a thing! Please don't hurt yourself. Please. I think you should talk to your mom about that. I'm sure she loves you very much and she would want to know. Maybe she can help. Good luck sweetheart. Stay safe.
2006-08-18 06:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you want some attention, or for something to stop or be fixed in your life. But by going about it in a backwards way.. (cutting yourself has the outcome of being hurt and bleeding.. THEN you get the attention.. perhaps.. if it works.. which it didn't.. so you move on to soemthing else harmful) Why not try talking to your sister or mom about how upset you are? That will gaurantee some attention and at least something done about the problem. Becoming anorexic or hurting yourself is trying to control other people's reactions, by doing something to yourself. Other people are in their own worlds, living their own lives, and may not realize that something like that would affect you so much. Why try to hide talkign to them by going to such great lengths to make them do something else? Also, if they are going to try to help you for your anorexia, that won't have anything to do with fixing the problem of why they are fighting in the first place, or stop the fighting altogether. Life will still go on for them and you whether or not you become anorexic. That is not the solution to the problem.
2006-08-18 13:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by blueberry-yum-yum! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deciding to become anorexic IS NOT going to end your sister's and mother's fighting. it is going to place you in a VERY dangerous condition health-wise. you could possibly end up killing yourself. anorexia is a dangerous disease.
please don't begin. see a counselor at school who will probably refer you and your family to seek professional guidance from a psychologist or psychiatrist.
promise yourself you will do this before starting down the destructive path that anorexia leads you on. there are other ways to lose weight. again, a skilled doctor can design a diet that will help you to shed the pounds. also, being 12, you still having growing to do. this will assist in the distribution of some of those extra pounds.
please follow my advice and write in again to report how you're doing. best of luck.
2006-08-18 13:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting your self won't bring the stress down. Make a family session and talk to your Mom and sister. You are just looking for attention and to be an anorexic is NOT the solution. Talk to your counceler. Good luck!
2006-08-18 13:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by nanrai18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: Seek help.
Second: Anorexic girls are terribly gross looking, ask any older guy this and he will tell you. I had a recent friend who is very abviously anorexic and she is hideously ugly in a bathing suit. Guys like curves, if you're built that way then use it. Besides you are only 12, you will grow out of any baby fat you have.
2006-08-18 13:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by mshart2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to "go" anorexic, then get on with it and stop trying to get attention. Stop eating and you'll have the attention you want. Even if you DON'T go anorexic, STOP stuffing your fat face and you'll at least lose weight and not be fat.
2006-08-18 13:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by West Coast G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u need help if u do that.....go see some1 actually get ur mom and sis to see some1
or u can say to something to them like would guys plz stop fighting ur gonna make me do somethign i dont wanna do or something and if that doesn't work.....tell some1 ......an adult.....a teacher or ur counseler or a family friend!
they can help u not do what ur thinking and get ur mom and sis to stop there bickering!
2006-08-18 13:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurting yourself will only bring more problems in your home ...... because then they will start to put the blame on each other and that will just worsen the situation, what you need to do is talk to a guidance counselor or someone who will listen OK
2006-08-18 13:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by vivi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to a therapist.
Anorexia will not solve your problems. Neither will cutting. They will only add to them. Trust me, I've tried both.
2006-08-19 01:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋