I met this guy about a month ago and we hit it off immediately. After some confusion about the route our relationship would take (there was attraction but he was hesitant towards me), he told me he had a girlfriend but told me she was leaving the country and he was going to break it off. I told him we could just be friends (no kissing or fooling around) and we've been spending time together as friends since (nothing physical happened before he told me). The other day he told me that he wanted to be with me romantically (which made me very happy because I've developed strong feelings for him) but I told him that nothing would happen until he ended his relationship and I felt that he was ready to move on.
But now I am wondering if I should wait for him (I have no idea when he plans on ending it), just remain friends (and do my best to keep my feelings to myself) or try to forget about him and move on? (which would be hard because we get along great) - Any suggestions?
2006-08-18 06:13:47 · 19 answers · asked by penguingurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Firstly, well done for sticking to your morals - it's hard when you like someone! I don't know if you should tell him how you feel now - he might want his cake and eat it. If you find it hard to keep your feelings to yourself and he's refusing to let you know if and when he's likely to end his relationship, it may be best to move on and forget him. You never know, that might prompt him to do something about it.
2006-08-18 06:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by puzzledfemale! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should drop him and run as if he is highly radioactive. He has no problem cheating on the other girl by propositioning you; and he has no problem being with you even though he is also with this other girl. If you want a monogamous relationship, then this isn't the guy for you. If you choose him, there can be no doubt: he will cheat on you much more than you will ever know. Of course, the cheating you find out about will be the stuff that breaks your heart. Dump him NOW.
2006-08-18 06:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a strong will and you respect yourself, a lot of girls wouldn't have be sooo good about it, keep on doing what U R doing, be honest to what you really want...
tell him that you want to be his girl, that U R not gonna get intimate w/ somebody who isn't UR bf.... so either U R 2gether or U R just friends....but this situation is not fair for U ... U need 2 know what's going on...
ps: if he doesn't make up his mind soon, just be his friend...U deserve sbdy who really wants U and who isn't just keepin U aside for when his gf leaves....
hope U'll get what U want ;)
2006-08-18 06:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Celebriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. If he was really that into you he would have already broke up with his girlfriend long ago. He's not worth it and could end up doing the same thing to you in the long run.
2006-08-18 06:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you move on and do your own thing. When he is ready and he realizes that he really wants to be with you, he should be smart enough to get you back. I am sick of women complaining about waiting on a man to come around. Guys need to use their heads and move, stop being babies and make up your minds!
2006-08-18 06:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by silentstar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mom had a guy that did this to her she went away on vacation and when she came back the guy was on a date with her and he told her he was engaged to the other girl trust me dont get into a relationship like that if you are then make sure he breaks up with her asap or just end it do you want to be two timed?
2006-08-18 06:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by udontnome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend and he is cheating on her with you. Do you want that kind of guy. It starting off on the wrong foot. He asked you to have sex and he has a GIRLFRIEND. I know you are having a good time but he is cheating on his GIRLFRIEND. How do you know if she is leaving the country? It could be a line. Do you want a guy who you think is perfect but who actually cheats on his girlfriend? What he is during to her, he will do to you.
2006-08-18 06:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just remain friends or drop him. if he still hasnt ended his previous relationship...who knows when he will and why is he procrastinating anyway? also, if it is taking him this long to end his previous relationship and he is still seeing you, how does his current gf feel? last but not least, if he's seeing you while dating her, how would you feel if he did that to you after breaking up with her and dating you? it would suck and some people are creatures of habit...you can't really change them.
2006-08-18 06:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by buzzmeyellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, trust me i hang out with alot of guys and maybe thats why i have my own set of problems. But I've seen it happen and that guy is just trying to see how far he can get with you. He might be a cool guy, but its best you move on. If your not sure when his breaking it up, then just move on...
2006-08-18 06:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me, your gonna be his back-up! If he has feelings for you then he should've already ended the other relationship. If she is leaving the country then he is still with her until she actually does. He's just workin himself up for when she does go.
2006-08-18 06:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋