Do you hold doors for others?

Question

And is it rude that if I hold doors and don't get a 'thank you' I SHOUT "you're welcome" at them? Because I've just started doing this.

Answer 1

Yes of course, but I think you are canceling out your good deed by shouting your welcome at them. If your holding the door to just get a reward or recongized (the THank you) then you really not doing a good deed from your heart. Most ppl are unfazed nowadays just know that you did something good and go on.

Answer 2

Yes, I do open doors and I don't care if someone says "thank you". I feel good that I have helped someone. Maybe someone is offended by my opening the door for them for some reason. A little old lady may think she is not old and is perfectly capable of opening her own doors. Yes, it is rude to shout "you're welcome". They should say thank you, but when they do not, they are rude. But, they didn't ask you to open the door for them, you were doing it to be nice and should not expect anything in return. You wouldn't get so upset if you did not expect a "thank you". By shouting "you're welcome" you are angry and that will probably make the other person angry and YOU are the one everyone will look at and think "JERK".

Answer 3

Yes, I hold doors for others. And it is very rude to shout you're welcome at them. If that's the attitude you have, and if you feel you must be thanked for your good deeds, why bother to hold the door for them in the first place? Do good deeds because you know it's the right thing to do, not for the thanks of others. If you do good, your reward should be in the deed. Do to others as you would have them do to you. Do you always remember to say thank you when someone does something nice for you? Be gracious and keep being nice. Forget the rude part!

Answer 4

Well I was raised as a southern belle, and have always had the door opened for me and I always say thank you.
I always hold the door for others...it's just plain good manners. I understand your frustration of wanting to scream out "you're welcome!" as my husband sometimes does, but that goes over most people's heads. Plus you're not being nice by screaming sarcastically at them. Just holding or opening the door and leaving it at that should be sufficient.
You should definitely not scream it to the elderly, as they may be slow to answer, or to a mother with a stroller because she has her hands full and a lot on her mind. They however, are the ones who need it the most.
But yes, there have been times I have wanted to say you're welcome at stores I never got a thank you from.

Answer 5

Yes, I hold doors for others. But I find a lot of people have no manners. Last month I was on crutches for a sprained ankle. I was at my bank and a woman was leaving just ahead of me. As I have a hard time with doors, I assumed she would hold the door for me. She let it slam into me, and almost knocked me over. I quite often will say "You're welcome" when someone forgets to say thanks, but I rarely get a response. I really think good manners are going the way of the albatross.

Answer 6

Yes, I always hold doors open for other people. It is rude for someone to not say thank you, but it is worse to shout your welcome. The person made have been in deep thought about something and did not mean to be rude. Manners are a developed habit and do not always get noticed. But it is better to have them, than not to have them.

Answer 7

You cancel out the politeness of the deed when you yell at them. I always say thank you when someone holds the door for me, even if it's a child doing it. I feel that I've done my good deed for the day by holding the door so a thank you from them is not necessary. A good deed done for the purpose of praise is not a good deed. Let other people have their rudeness. Don't take it into yourself.

Answer 8

For me it's like I have to do it. It's rude to not hold the door open for someone who's right behind you. It's like slamming a door in their face. And a thank shouldn't be expected, but would be nice. A good deed is something you do from kindness not in an effort to get a reward.

Answer 9

Yes, I hold doors open for anyone.
People are not really being rude, most are just too busy to say Thank You.
Shouting you're welcome is rude, because most people don't always notice that you held the door.
You should be satisfied that you are doing a good service and not really need a thank you.

Answer 10

Yes, I often hold doors for others. It's generally rude to shout at people, but sometimes I think it would be OK, if they're acting like a real jackass.