how do i get my ex off my back?

Question

alright heres my situation. my ex won't stop calling my cell phone. one time i picked up because he found out how to call under restricted and i answered cuz a lot of my other friends call under restricted. well anyways he literally BEGGED me to get back with him. I told him that it was over, it was done, im not getting back with you, etc. he didn't catch the hint. ever since then which was last saturday, hes been calling three times a day on my cell phone. he left only one voice mail saying he wants to hang out this weekend!!!! im like are you serious? i basically told this guy off and he want to hang out. im not going out with him. nope. he wont stop calling. how do i deal with this? any ideas on how to get him to move on and stop calling?

Answer 1

If you change your number, he is only going to find another way to contact you and you know this. This guy, for whatever reason seems to think he can't live without you. I'm afraid to tell you this, but you are going to have to take one more phone call from him. During this phone call it is imperative that you tell him you are no longer interested in him, that you are blocking his number from your phone(which you can do), and that if he tries to contact you in any other way, he leaves you with no choice but to get a restraining order. Tell him you are sorry to be so blunt, but it's over and it's time for him to move on. If you tell him directly what you intend to do, it'll register in his brain. Not accepting the calls leaves him wondering if he still has a chance and you are just mad. There is a big difference between catching a hint(which most men never do) and directly telling them it's over. It'll be hard, but you'll be glad you did it.

Answer 2

I learned everything I know about dating from the movie "Harry and the Hendersons" and films on training rats. When you love someone and it isn't working out, the worst thing you can do is send mixed messages. When you want him to leave, just be as mean as possible. Say you never want to see him again. If you give a starving rat food when he hits a button, just one time, he will keep coming back to hit that button no matter how many electric shocks you give him. You let this guy back once, and you will really be screwed. Just keep telling him off. Then maybe after a month, get a new boyfriend who will kick this guys ****.

Answer 3

I think you should change your phone number. Give your new number to the people who you know for a fact will not give him the new number. If he starts showing up at your house or your job after that then get a restraining order. If he violates the restraining order he'll get locked up. Maybe then while he is in a holding cell, (and let's not hope it comes to that) he will realize that you don't want to be bother with him.

Answer 4

Is he a Virgo by any chance? I noticed that Virgo males who aren't happily in love are stalkers with a tendency towards being serial killers.

He seems to fit the profile. Oh he won't murder you. Don't worry about that. He'll repress the hatred (similar to what Andrew Kunanan did) and start killing prostitutes in cryptic ways.

Hopefully, he becomes a lithium or prozac boulemic for the rest of his natural born eternity because it doesn't seem that he can exist happily with-OUT controlling the lives of those around him.

Psychiatrists refer to him, in technical terms as being: "Serioiusly screwed up in the head."

Tell the louse that you'd rather give head to a wasp nest in a hot, humid, New Orleans summer day by the bayou in swamped infested with mosquitos.

Sorry, I find beggars perturbing.

Answer 5

when my boyfriend did that, when i talked to him i would talk about other guys and stuff that i know that would make him mad. Like if he asked you to hang out this weekend, so something like " o no i have a date with some guy from somewhere" be vague tho ( cause it may not be true). Make sure to tell any of your friends that you think might talk to to go along with it. I bet he will stop calling after that.
And then if he even calls you the next day, make up come details you can tell him about your hot date. i bet you he will be so mad he will hang up. lol

Answer 6

I had a girlfriend (crazy *****) who was the same way. From my point of view, I changed the phone number and had my brother pay for it for a month or so, then switch on over to my name. If I were you, get a restraining order, that kind of s h i t doesn't sound right. Good luck with your psycho.

Answer 7

Get your self a man that is bigger then he is to pretend that he is with you know an warn him that if he does not stop calling and bothering you he will kick his ###.

Either keep track of the calls and get a peace order against him and that will stop him from harassing you.

Answer 8

1. Change your number.
2. Tell your friends that you won't answer an unidentified number and if they don't want to release their number to leave a message and you will call them back.
3. Make sure that NO ONE gives him your new number. Tell all your friends about how important that is to you and don't give your number to anyone that you think will give it to him.

Answer 9

From past experience the only thing that works is for you to get all your numbers changed. If he starts stalking you than get a restraining order. The best of luck.

Answer 10

restraining order. If hes that much of a bother and you dont wanna go thru the trouble of changing your number, get a restrainging order so if he calls, all you gotta do is call the cops. And after that, I dont think he'll be calling again.