we have been together for a year and a half and since i have gotten pregnant he is worse...even when i mention her name he goes balistick...why is he being so ignorant and controlling????
she has been my best friend for almost 20 years and we don't do anything wrong...she is married with kids...so what's his problem...any advice would be appreciated...thanks
2006-08-18 05:33:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know if this applies to you after 1.5 years, but every man I or my friends have had experience with like that usually treat their women badly, and they know it...which is why they don't want them out or talking to anyone, especially their friends...afraid someone will give the woman the guts to leave them.
2006-08-18 05:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You simply need to ask him...what's your problem???? It is very selfish on his part not to want to share you with your bestfriend of so many years. Have they had some sort of conflict in the past? If not, then it sounds like he wants you all to himself and do not let him get away with it....if you do then you will have no one to blame but you. He needs to get over his jealous and controling behavior, otherwise is he also going to have a problem with a new baby that you are going to be giving all of your attention to. I am very serious, if he cannot control this he really should get into some type of counseling/therapy to change this behavior. If he is resistant to this.....then he is not willing to admit he has a problem and doesn't want anyone telling him he does. Bottom line..........don't allow it, otherwise he will continue because he can.
2006-08-18 12:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really weird. I'm not suggesting this is your situation, but I had a friend whose husband is the same way and it was because he was having an affair with the friend. He didn't want her to see her best friend because she was scared her best friend would blab.
Your boyfriend sounds very unhealthily jealous. To be completely honest with you, if he is like this is other areas of your life, I would leave him. I understand your pregnant, but you do not want to bring a baby into a home where there is discourse. If he is generally a great guy aside from this, tell him you won't tolerate his behavior.
Good luck, and be careful with him. He sounds like he has a bad temper.
2006-08-18 12:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a control issue. He may also be attracted to this woman. I had the same problem with an ex of mine. Everytime I would mention this girl he would say "don't talk to her. don't hang around her". I found out later that he was attracted to her and didn't want it to get back to me which it eventually did.
2006-08-18 12:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by gemone523 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering the last question you posted (I just found out my bf beat up someone at work) then deleted almost immediately that attracted me to open up your main page and then I felt the urge to read and answer this question, it's because he is controlling and potentially abusive. Be very careful or you may wind up his prisoner.
2006-08-18 14:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because he's afraid that when you meet up with your best friend, she'll form opinions about your situation with your boyfriend that he wouldn't like.
But why keep wondering? Why not confront him with this, and offer reasons (obvious or not) why you feel the need to meet up with your bestfriend.
Better yet...you are your own person. Why do you even need his approval for you to meet with your bestfriend?
2006-08-18 14:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by endrshadow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a control freak. You're better off without him, unless he's willing to go to counselling with you and make some serious attitude adjustments. BTDT
2006-08-18 14:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is nothing wrong with you seeing your friend. Talk with him or leave him. Don't sneak around. Confront it now or it will just get worse .
2006-08-18 12:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by tazintampa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes a little tense with her. maybe something went on like badly? maybe you should call her secretly (lol) and ask wats up. or ask him... if he doesn't go balistic on you.
2006-08-18 12:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a controlling dick, you need to get rid of him... before he hurts you or your baby
2006-08-18 14:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋