I'm going to be the aunt, but it doesn't seem right that I'm just "assigned" something to do without them asking me. Is it just typical that people are expected to want to help out with this kind of stuff?
2006-08-18 05:20:20 · 6 answers · asked by IAskUAnswer 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Personally, I thingk that is kind of rude. You should be asked if you want to help out. It should not be assumed just because you are a close relation. Being closely related to the resultant offspring does not always mean you'll show any interest in it.
2006-08-18 05:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Elvendra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is typical, however, it's not very polite. Let them know you simply don't have the time (or whatever reason you can't do it). Say you have prior obligations or something. But that you would be glad to come and will bring a gift to show your excitement. If they persist, just mess up whatever they assign you. Then they will never ask you to do anything again.
2006-08-20 17:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Hey You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think thats rude (I do too) but I had a co-worker not even a close friend, ask me to help give the shower. She then picked out Jennifer Lopez' (super trendy and expensive) restaurant as the location and expected us all to do it!
As she's wearing her Channel sunglasses and designer clothes by the way.
And I'm there in my Macy's clothes
2006-08-18 12:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by siege 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is presumptious to assume that you will be helping out. I would be a bit upset about being volunteered, but at the same time, because it was my sisters baby, I would just do it.
2006-08-18 12:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are right that you should have been asked--but feel privileged that your family is so close that they feel they don't have to ask--I was just made an aunt and tried to help and wasn't allowed my sis in law got her hooks into and wanted to do it all by herself. (so that she could take the credit)
I think that it must just depend on the family--congrats on your new nephew/niece
2006-08-18 12:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by creative rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you've specifically stated that you're giving the shower, it's not appropriate for anyone to assume anything.
2006-08-18 12:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jayna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋