I'm leaving for college soon and I lost all confidence in finding a girlfriend. When they start insulting me because of who I am and what I do it hurts my feelings. I'm not a bad guy, I'm nice to women and treat them with respect, I pay for the dinner and the movie. Then they dont want to see me any more after the first night. What am I doing wrong?
2006-08-18 05:08:56 · 40 answers · asked by yankee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you're the gentleman & the ladies you choose aren't ready for you.
You'll meet a lot of different girls in school. This is a good time for you to explore, have fun & keep it simple.
Hang out in groups & you'll see more of the girls personalilty come through. Then you can select the ones you want to ask out.
Either way, you'll meet lots of new people.
Good Luck!
2006-08-18 05:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being dissed sux! But you're going off to college soon and you'll get a fresh start with the lessons learned.
You didn't give much info about what exactly do they criticize about you. But be patient, don't rush them, pay attention to chemistry, and love yourself, that shines through in your relationships with other people. If you like and respect yourself, you'll demand that from others without really having to say anything.
Get the most of your fresh start, don't just mope around, learn your lessons in past relationships, and move on with confidence...
2006-08-18 05:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by cleo715 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably mannerism/ looks. Be confident, dress for success, use some good colone i recommend also using axe it smells so nice on my guy. Get a cool hair cut- short and spikey, and be calm and relaxed. Dont seem anxious. Ask her lots of questions, seem interested in her, add your own input and i dont recommend a movie because you cant really talk during a movie. Take her bowling or star gazing or anything else. If you do watch a movie- maybe rent one and watch it at home- keep in mind- make sure its a chick flick or comedy. At dinner let her order first, open doors, be a gentelmen. Thats all i can recommend.
2006-08-18 05:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't thing you're doing anything wrong. Perhaps it's just the girls whom you've been asking out. I think it will be better once you get to college. College girls will be more mature than high school girls. Also, don't worry about finding a girlfriend right away. Just try to settle in and make new friends and do interesting things in your first year of college. After you settle into your new school, you'll probably become more confident about approaching women.
2006-08-18 05:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do they insult you for who you are and what you do? Can you give more details? Sounds like you're a really sweet guy to me, maybe just a little shy. You'll find the right one, don't worry, and college will bring lots of new people to meet, and you'll all be new to each other, you can re-invent yourself.
Enjoy!
2006-08-18 05:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing just keep dating till you find the one. . Do some research on the girl to find her interests, when you find out... woo her off her feet. Doesn't matter on what u look like its the person inside, and your obviously not dating the right kind of women that can see the brighter side of you to give ya a second chance. Good luck.
2006-08-18 05:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since you did not tell us what you were doing during dinner and the movie, then it is hard to say what the peoblem could be. i would say that you are just dating the wrong types of girls. You are getting ready to go away to college, then it will be hard to leave a girlfriend at home anyway... You have plenty of time left... enjoy your life and have fun...
2006-08-18 05:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to college!!!! There are going to be plenty of girls there. I don't think your doing something wrong, the sad truth is that most females say they want a nice guy but they're really attracted to the "bad boys". My best advice: Stay the way you are!!! Sooner or later they'll be someone worthy of you =)
2006-08-18 05:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, you've just had some bad luck. College will open new doors for you, remember to take it slow and don't get caught up in "wanting" someone to be in love with you. when it comes, it comes. Just keep being you and true to yourself.. Good luck in the future.
2006-08-18 05:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by ShySweetNSassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking less and listening more. Woman like listeners it makes them feel more connected to you, but don't shut up completely b/c they will think they are boring you. Critique your appearance too. The first attraction is physical. Hence don't judge a book by its cover, lol.
2006-08-18 05:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋