Just started "seeing" this guy who is great on paper...fun, great job (HS teacher), good family, somewhat close (1hr drive). We've had 1 outing and 1 official date which both went well. BUT, he was quick to warn me that although he likes me and wants to pursue this, besides being cautious to jump into anything (he's 30 and previously engaged), he's dead to the outside world during FB season. Head coach said during the 1st practice "Kiss your wives/girlfriends goodbye until Nov!". I don't think it'd be a problem if we were established but like I said its the new "getting to know each other" period. For example, all this weekend he's scouting other teams practices and then a family event sunday. In a perfect world, he'd call/text whenever he got spare time and tired wouldn't be an excuse for just a quick hi/good nite. He texts messages daily, but calls r now rare. I love football and plan on attending his games, but I also want to get to know a potential new mate. What's reasonable?
2006-08-18 05:04:50 · 4 answers · asked by Kyppa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
On the plus side, he has been completely honest with you about what his availability is. He hasn't started something he can't finish. And, that says a lot about his character.
You might try to travel with him to some of these scouting sessions. You wouldn't be able to talk to him much during the practices, but during the travel time on either end, you'd be able to chat.
Also, you could meet him after practice/film session with a picnic supper to eat in the stands. Chat with him then.
Do enough to stay on the radar, but not enough to bug him.
It's going to be difficult, but it's August 18. He'll be free around Nov. 18. It just 90 days away.
2006-08-18 05:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's based on the misguided assumption that a woman won't be chiefly trying to get into a friend's pants. There seems to be an idea that a woman won't be interested in a male friend sexually, or has a higher resilience against infidelity. Looking at the situation though, a woman's male friend is a man and we come full circle to where a man has a female friend. On this analysis it appears that the question is not universally applicable. edit - I agree Jonmcn49, so 'on average' there will be a fairly equal amount of jealousy from both sides, with separate origins. How does this address the 'cultural' question of women considering it ok to have male friends and not vice-versa (whether or not this is a true observation)?
2016-03-16 23:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is his chosen career. He was up front with you about his dedication to the season. The relationship is still in the early stages, so you should not expect anything. If he wants to contact you, he will when he has time.
2006-08-18 05:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tyler Durdin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
football season is demanding so dont expect much until the end
2006-08-18 05:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by Antonio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋