I go to church, and supposed to believe in this 'God' figure. I don't believe in him, but I couldn't possibly tell my family about this, they would ground me for like 5 years. They have me all involved in the Church's band, Bible study, and Youth group. I never have any fun though. And it also makes me feel left out since I'm the only girl my age there too. What should I do and is there anyone that agrees with me?
2006-08-18 05:03:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
screw him . . what has he done for you lately.
2006-08-18 05:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up I faced the same thing. I practiced and dreaded thru all the services but when I turned 18 I decided to find my true spiritual path. Here I am 10 years later and I am where I am meant to be.
I you dont want to wait then go to the library and research other religions, ask questions to the elders that they dont know the answer to, pretend you are sick, get up earlier then everyone else and leave the house.
If all else fails tell your family how you feel. The worst that can happen is you will still be forced to go the bible study until you are 18.
2006-08-18 12:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Nelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by finding other activities that you can go to instead. They probably won't like it if you just stop going and hang around the mall instead or something. But if you go to arts classes or something instead of Bible study (whoa, I feel for you...), perhaps that'll go easier with them.
You're stuck with going to church until you confront your parents and tell them you don't believe... depending on your age (and just how devout they are), you may want to do it right now or wait a few years. It'll probably help if you can look them in the eye and say you gave it every chance you could (i.e. stuck with it for a while), some would think you just quit believing on a whim.
Good luck!
2006-08-18 12:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by ThePeter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your difficult situation.I think you'd have to look for other options to avoid the circumstances. You really have to play with your brain here.Either you have to live away from your family by making some good excuses of studies or job or business or whatever in order to relieve yourself from this trap or you'd have to keep yourself real busy in some other stuff that your parents have always wanted you to do so.Remember, your resentment is not gonna help you here but rather you have to convince them that whatever you gonna be doing is best for the family, this way parents are happy and they will definitely try to realise your situation and eventually allow you to go on your own. This way, they'd also understand your inability to co-ope with the church stuff coz they know now you are doing something very constructive for your future.So, they may not force you to waste time in Church stuff anymore.Just try this, it might work for you. Good Luck!
2006-08-18 12:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ethan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you examined WHY you don't believe in Him? Perhaps you are instead going through a typical teenage wall of rebellion instead? Sometimes the worst thing a family can do is push. It reflects badly. Please try and remember that family can be flawed in cramming it down your throat. These are normal feelings to have and is good for you to explore them. I think in the end that you will find a peace with God that your family couldn't provide.
2006-08-18 12:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by peacemaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don´t mention your age, but i´m guessing you´re under 18, try talking to them, but don´t expect them to be very open minded about it since they have the conviction that all this is for your own good, i do believe in God, but i´m not religious anymore and even though my family isn´t happy about it they have learned to cope with it, think that you will not always have to follow their path, that eventually you´ll have some independence and will be able to search and find your own path, good luck.
2006-08-18 13:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by lizeth s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be stuck for now. I was until I turned 18.
There's no talking to some people about religion, and that can be magnified when it comes to parents. I'm guessing your parents are not reasonable, or you wouldn't be asking this.
So hang in there, it WILL get better!
2006-08-18 12:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to be honest and tell your family as some point
they need to respect your beliefs - each person's spiritual journey is their own
2006-08-18 12:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents what you just told us. If you can't because of fear they might not understand then wait till your older and change religion or not.
2006-08-18 12:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Yoruba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your picture meant to be a girl?!
2006-08-18 12:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by abdulaziiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋