This year school shopping with my daughter was tough. She had to have a particular style of Nikes and clothes. She is going into 2nd grade! What's up with that?
2006-08-18 05:03:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She wears good brand name shoes - no payless junk. That is not an option. Her feet are growing and need good support. I was just amazed she had a certain style she "had to have".
2006-08-18 05:21:03 · update #1
Although, I'm just a new mommy. I have a one year old, I so hope that I won't be dealing with the issue you have described.
I think it's great that she's expressing herself with her clothing, however there is a limit. Just because all the other kids have it doesn't mean she gets it. You are still the parent here and you have the final say in what gets purchased.
My mom would have looked at me and said "if all the other kids jumped off the bridge would you?" of couse my answer was no and then she would say well then do you want to look just like them, NO. I defiently didn't get all the trendy clothes and I grew up just fine, but when mom said No I knew that was the end of that conversation.
Do you give your daughter an allowance? If so then, suggest to your daughter that if she really wants a particular style of Nikes
that she needs to pay for half the cost with her allowance. Tell her what the cost is in total and then tell her how much she needs to contribute. It's a great way to teach your child the value of money and the cost of items. If she saves her half then go get the shoes.
If your daughter does not receive an allowance then now is the time to again tell her that she needs to contribute to the cost of the shoes by helping with chores and earning the money needed.
Good Luck in the future.
2006-08-18 05:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by twinkletoes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids were wearing appropriate clothes for school since day one, and they wear brand names clothes and shoes but I think you're so wrong by making that comment about payless junk because some people that's all that they can afford. But anyways it's only normal don't freak out.
2006-08-25 00:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of mine tried to hand me that line at different ages. Though we could afford to buy them all the popular things, I never allowed it. This is a great chance to teach kids about resisting peer pressure, being their own person, and budgets. Clothes don't make the person, especially when those little feet are growing and moving so fast they go through 3 and 4 pairs of shoes in a school year.
2006-08-18 12:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by auld mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a child who is in Kindergarten and she already knows what brand of shoes she wants thanks to my inlaws. All my daughter talks about is getting her some sketcher shoes and how she wants those Harley Clothes. I'm mean yeah don't get me wrong you want all the best things for your child but hey I usually put a limit on things that she gets. I already told her if she wants them Harley Clothes she is gonna have to ask her Papaw and Mamaw for them. Because I'm not gonna.
I believe its all bout staying w/the in crowd on what everyone else is getting and whats in style now. I believe it will get worse as girls get older because my son won't be like that lets hope not.
2006-08-18 13:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by localgirl420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is going in 1st grade but she has been like that since she was 3 she has a style all her own,,,My son is 4 and starting pre-school and doesn't care what he wears as long as it's not Orange he hates that color.
2006-08-18 12:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by sane_nut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what the age, until she is out from under your roof, you are the adult, not her. Make sure she realizes that and understands it, or else clothes won't be the only thing that ya'll will fight over. She will appreciate your guidance, if not now, when she is an adult. I know, I wish I had, had parents that had been parents and not friends.
2006-08-26 00:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by emerys4christ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont nees to buy brand like nike coz she want so many if wiht brand too then u must tell her u can buy only little bit coz is very expensive.she dont know whats going on wiht ur budget only u so dont follow her folow ur self.she still ahve enough time for that.common u can buy clothes when is little bit bigbut now not yet is not good u learn her too early.
2006-08-18 12:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by cute sam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is peer pressure.Why do you give in to that.Explain to her that just because other kids have them ,she doesn't need them.That is unless you can afford all the extra stuff.My kids were always very understanding when I explained that we couldn't afford that kind of stuff.Of course once they're 13 ,14 they are not that understanding anymore...lol....but 2nd grade,well you are the parent and you do what you want,but believe me this will only get worse the older she gets.
2006-08-18 12:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by tahitisweetie1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have one in the 1st and 3rd grade this year and they are both doing the same thing. it is crazy how it happens so young. they dont really worry so much about the brand but definitely style.
2006-08-18 12:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whos the parent
if u cant afford it u just cant when u live in the getto things dont come easy pay check or not
2006-08-24 01:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by ta69692000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋