It's been 5 days and she hasn't called yet?

Question

I asked a girl out to a concert and she said "I don't know". So I gave her my number and asked her to call me if she wants to go. The prob is, it has been 5 days now and she hasn't called. Do you think there is a chance she might call tonight because the concert is tomorrow and I don't have any backup dates except for my li'l bro who wants to watch the concert as well. Now, this girl is really shy and doesn't talk much and I had this feeling that she has a crush on me before because she used to stare at me a lot. But I think he is seeing a guy right now because she is constantly on the phone on her breaks. I kinda like her now and decided to ask her to go to a concert with me but I think it was weird for her because I just asked her out of the blue. I know that there is a 99.9% that she will blow me off. What should I tell her when I see her again? I really want to know her more.

Answer 1

she hasn't answered-keep your dignity and don't hang around. Use it to spend your quality time with your bro.

If she does eventually get in touch, tell her you didn't think she wanted to go and so you are taking your brother. This will have a two-fold effect.
1.She will think you are really sweet taking your brother.
2. The fact that you didn't hang-around waiting shows that you have a life, and she will want you even more.

If you do get to the stage where she eventually shows interest- fine...arrange another date with her doing something else. But at this stage I think your bro should get the ticket.

Please post back here what happened.
Marissa x

Answer 2

Give it up 5 days is quite some days. If she wanted to go she would have called you a long time ago phone games suck so move on take your brother and meet some girls at the concert. And anyways teach your brother how to open up. When you see her again dont mention anything about the concert and say hi and wait for her to talk to you its being smart and keeping respect for yourself. :) Good letting that out.

Answer 3

In the language of female the words "I don't know" are universal for:

"I hope that this stalking psychotic ponders this question in bepuzzlement for the rest of my living eternity so that I'll never have to be seen around his creepy looking face again."

Wouldn't it be so much easier if she simply just told you to PLUDGE OFF?

The reason she doesn't is simple though: men have a tendency to break things when they don't get what they want.

Why are most men like this? They think in lines, boxes, left turns, right turns, forwards and backwards: like dull, unshavened robots. And when a man sees a left turn and there is a wall, he tinkers boringly with his problem until he's engineered a solution. This whole pick a puzzle and solve it logic doesn't work with females. And when a guy can't solve a problem that isn't solveable, he goes insane.

I've always thought that confusion is created by females and insanity was invented by males.

I can't blame women for saying, "I don't know." I also wouldn't be surprised if politics and 4 syllable words were invented by our lovely sexual counterparts either.

Answer 4

Not to be harsh, but if she were really interested she'd either say yes immediately or...

Well, just talk to her to confirm this. Don't take her just because she will go, she might just use you just to see the show. Give her an out and say, "Hey, it seems you are seeing someone, perhaps I was mistaken in asking you to the concert." Explain you will understand that she might not be able to go. If you handle yourself well, you could gain a friend and respect from her. Just make sure that you don't decide to take her anyway, DO NOT let her mislead you and take advantage of you just because she knows you like her. Ultimately, it's up to you. You know her, just keep your eyes open, be honest...it could work out. Don't be mean, just be direct.

Answer 5

Well, you should of get to know her before you ask her to the concert. Now you're saying that she is a shy person,then maybe you should call.( if u have her number) if not, well next time you see her, act normal, don't talk about the concert that she ditched because you'll make her feel bad or guitly and you don't even know her. Just act friendly and try to get to know her.

Answer 6

Realize what you are saying and let it go. Do you REALLY want a girl who is getting to know a new boyfriend that will then turn around and go to a concert with another guy? When she's getting to know you, you want her to be TOTALLY into you. That's not possible now. Move on.

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Answer 7

Forget the concert, but ask her out for a coffee and a chat. Maybe she wants to get to know you but feels uncomfortqble going to concert with someone she doesn't know too well.

Answer 8

If she hasn't said yes yet then she is probably not going to. Sorry! Are you sure she was looking at you? Was she just looking because YOU kept looking at HER? Now, just because she's on the phone a lot doesn't mean it's with a guy.

My advice: Go with your gut instinct. I think you already know the answer to this question.

Answer 9

first off does she like the music? cuz if she isnt going to be into the music at the concert she may feel akward going w. someone who is obviously into it... also if she is seeing a guy, this is probably holding her back because she may be interested in him... and even if she is interested in him she is kinda w. the other guy and may feel slightly obligated to do something w. him as opposed to you? not sure tho... take ur bro tho cuz i love going to concerts w. my family and being able to have those memories

Answer 10

Ermmm....I know you are making excuses for her but I really do think that you have to come to terms with the fact that if she wanted to go to the concert with you and she liked you then she would have rang well before now. Don't worry about it though...things like this happen. Just enjoy yourself with your little brother.