I am pregnant with our first child When we watch Supernanny and Bratcamp etc on TV then go to the supermarket and see children screaming and thowing tantrums I panic inside and wonder what we are letting ourselves in for. Everone I know with a kids gives me the ' it's different when it's your own' - is this just one big cover up or does a mini miracle occur?
2006-08-18 04:52:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Every child is different, that is what's great about having your own I was so worried about the tantrums in public now my 2 year old says please and thank you for everything. Stop watching the shows about out of control kids and focus on the good things. If you teach your baby good manners from the beginning it will become a way of life. All kids act up and get into trouble at some point but if you tell them "no" that's it. You are the boss. All kids push the limits to see what they can get away with but if you a firm and fair it shouldn't get to that point. Take a breath, count to 10, and relax, you're going to be a great mom because you care. Congratulations and welcome to motherhood
2006-08-18 05:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by jesse'sgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. I think every parent is different. My husband is more tolerant of ill behaviour than I am. I am strict about certain things. I can not stand to see children throwing fits or running rampant in the stores and I refuse to allow my children to do so. While I know it can not always be prevented, I make sure they don't get away with it.
I suppose it can be different with your own, because you generaly are more tolerant of your childs behaviour than you would be someone elses. Not that its a bad thing, but don't be one of those parents that walks around telling people ' just run him over, he'll move' or another parent that says 'kids will be kids'.
The fact of the matter is that kids will go only as far as their parents allow them to. Set your rules, when you see your child acting a way that you don't agree with. Don't be afraid to put your foot down. And yes, this can start very early.
I have been making a lot of effort with my first child that I was not allowed to do with my 2 step children for the simple fact that I didn't have them lol. I see a huge difference in my children. my 1 year old understands what no means, and is more willing to help than my other two are. He will voluntarily clean things up (though I think he is a tad odd). I get less fight from him than I do the other two because they were not taught these things from the beginning. It took me two years to get them to dress themselves, brush their teeth, make beds and clean up after themselves, although I suspect that their ADHD is another factor that made it take so long.
Don't panic too much, as other children's actions are generaly a reflection on the parenting.
Best wishes!
2006-08-18 12:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids that are as out of control as the ones you see on SuperNanny and the other shows are that way because of bad parenting. It's a fact of nature that babies, toddlers and kids will at sometime throw a fit or have a tantrum over this or that. How you handle it when it happens will make the difference between a rare occurrence and a regularly habit. They are new little people and exploring independence. Showing them by example how to act when things don't go your way and not falling in to child manipulations, is part of what makes good kids.
2006-08-18 12:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's different when its your own means that when you have a kid of your own you will understand why kids act out, because it's part of being a kid. All kids do it when they don't get there way. I remember throwing tantrums myself when I was little. Now I have a 1 year old and he hasn't thrown tantrums yet, but I know he will. I haven't known any kid that hasn't acted out in the supermarket at least 1 time. I say 1 because the first time should be the last time if the parents stand firm and punish them for acting out. Don't worry about it, it all has to do with how you raise your little one. Congratulations!
2006-08-18 14:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no mini miracle. And it is different when they are yours. But, as long as you don't spoil them and let them do pretty much whatever they want, you will not have to worry about those kids that throw huge tantrums in grocery store isles.
2006-08-18 12:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there's going to be differences when the child is your own and when a child is someone elses...
but how that child turns out is all up to you...the future parent...
if you raise the child to be a brat then that child will be a brat...
if you raise the child to be what you want that child to be then that child will be what you raise it to be...
i am a big nurture person in the whole nature VS nurture argument....
2006-08-18 12:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by Doug110982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry...you'll be a great parent IF you set guidelines down for your child from the beginning. I think a lot of the problem with kids who are bratty is that their parents did not enforce any rules. It was easier to just shut them up with a piece of candy, or let them have their way some other way.
2006-08-18 12:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by it's me! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
UNIVERSAL TRUTH!I didn't like children before my son was born ,but I fell in love with HIM.He is now 17 and ready to leave the nest .I want to clip his wings!
2006-08-18 12:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by changeling 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put up with a lot more when the child is your own.
2006-08-18 21:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is different when it is you own. Like I used to be mean to my younger siblings when they acted like that but I would never be mean to my daughter.
2006-08-18 12:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋