my boyfriend lives an hour and 30 min away can this relationship work?

Question

i live in moody and he lives south of birmingham is this going to b a hard relationship

Answer 1

Not to be negative here but I have had long distance relationship experience, and all I can tell you is that men forget they're in a relationship. This guy I was dating lived far from me, and this mutual friend of ours told me that he was telling her about this girl he was going to ask out on a date. As soon as she told me this, I called him and broke it off. I would elaborate on the story, but I'd rather not, it's much much longer and complicated than what I already typed. Anyway, my point is, he'll get tired of being so far from you. Men need to feel us close, or at least they need to have us close so we can prevent them from cheating. Maybe you got yourself a good one and you guys can work it out... but from experience, and from what I've known about other people... I would say that yes, it will definitely be a hard relationship... especially on how much you're going to miss him.

Answer 2

look, 1.5hrs away is NOTHING. while living close makes it much easier, consider that there are relationships where they live much, much, MUCH further away (i was in a relationship where there was an 16hr time diff every time she went back).

it all depends on how much effort you put into keeping in touch. if you make an effor to see each other regularly (and sometimes with surprise visits) then the relationship won't be that difficult. besides, if you're not living together then you would more than likely ony see eachother ever couple of days... just think about having a few extra days between visits! but it shouldn't be that hard and since you don't see each other every day it will give you that much more to talk on the phone/chat online about.

that way you maintain the mental/emotional connection while your weekly (or more often) visits help maintain that physical connection (no i'm not talking about sex... althought that can be important, i'm talking about the holding, kissing, other physical things that help you keep a connection with your significant other)

Answer 3

can it work... yes.

Will it be difficult to make it work... at times yes (but then again what relationship is "easy"?)

Do I think it will work? Thats not the question... so I wont answer it. I will say this. Relationships require that both individuals put forth a large amount of effort to keep the relationship afloat. If either one of you quits "putting out" the effort (the pun was intended), then you're sunk. With an hour and a half distance separating you, that will be a lot of driving back and forth. Make sure that you take turns (not like it has to be every other time), but make sure that you are both doing the dirty work. I have a friend that is in a very similar relationship, and her boyfriend wont make the trip out to see her but maybe ONCE A FRICKIN MONTH! She visits him every weekend, and on occasion...during the week. Yet, he can't put forth the effort to get off his butt, and come down to see her? I'll tell ya...I've heard nothing but crap about him, since he stopped trying to come down. Before this...they were all mushy and crap (to be honest.... i'm not missing them acting like that).

So good luck.

Answer 4

Are you stupid for asking this stupid question? Because if you are stupid, i am sure you never heard of long distance relationship where people lives in different countries! God! I dont understand how can you ask this question. There are alot of long distance relationship that end up with a marriage! And if you think your bf lives 1 hour 30 mins away cant work, then all i can is just that in this relationship there is no love, no trust, cant even call a relationship. Just leave him and date you neighbour.

Answer 5

It. Can. Definately. Work.
My boyfriend and I used to be at the same school, but there was a years difference between us (him being one year younger), so i moved to college whilst he embarked upon his last year of secondary school. Its definately tough adjusting to this new situation - I was used to seeing him virtually every day, certainly talking or at least texting him, and we both had to adjust to not seeing each other as much. Yes, it was hard, and yes you need to trust each other fully, but it's certainly do-able. Just remember to trust each other, not to freak the other out with excessive worrying or posessiveness, make time to see each other when you're both free to do so (hopefully one or both or you can drive or you have good transport links between moody & birmingham), and have a positive outlook on things - don't see the situation as doomed to fail - just see it as a challenge! My boyfriend and I were further than 1 1/2 hours away, so if we can do it, then you two definately can!

Answer 6

Long distance relationships are hard but if the both of you are serious about the relationship & put in the effort it might work. I suggest to make some time once every week or two to see each other because speaking from experience the telephone wont keep a relationship afloat.

Answer 7

What is meant to be will be. If your love is one that has 100% trust, honesty, and committment then it can work. The key here is to keep your relationship in good stance is communication via email, phone, or letters when you cant see him. It is not easy to be away from the one you love but it CAN be done. There are girls that are with the brave that serve our country and are apart for very long times. True love conquers all. And love always requires work, you get back what you put into it.

Answer 8

Not if you really want it to work. At least you live in the same country. Take time to go by him and he should take some to come by you. talk on the phone, use other forms of communication to keep close to him. Do not let that distance make a problem in your relationship. If you really like him that would not even be an issue.

Answer 9

Yes. If you guys are willing to work at it. I live 20-30 minutes from my ex, and he doesn't have enough time in the day to be with me with work, school, training, etc. (which is one reason we broke up). He is on a selfish path right now, but it's what he has to do. He isn't willing to sacrifice his goals to be with me, and I don't hate him for that, I just wish there was another way.

You have to try it, if it doesn't work maybe it isn't meant to be, or maybe it will work out later. Just talk it over and see what can be done.

Answer 10

why wouldn't it work? Do you both agree to have this relationship? Have you both worked out when and how often you two can see each other? Most important, do you both trust each other when out of each others sight? It all depends on what you both have goin on, how in depth your relationship is.
Cripes, There have been relationships where one goes off to school and only sees the other on holidays or whatever. It all depends on the substance of your relationship.