Why is my teenage daughter so unhappy?

Question

My daughter just started attending a high school this year, which is much bigger than her school that she went to for grades k-8. She talks back to me after every word I say now, she stays in her room on the phone, and cries so much now. I have tried to talk to her but she says she won't tell me, and even if she did have a problem that she could fix it. I mean we had issues and dealings like this before she went to the bigger school but not to this degree. Why is she so unhappy?

Answer 1

i hope you can approach her, maybe try an objective approach, saying, look, i'm your mother, i've loved you for 14 years and i'm going to keep on loving you no matter what happens. i feel sad that we haven't been able to talk lately, and i'd like to fix that. let's go out to dinner and work on our relationship...
something like that may work
sounds like she's either gotten in with a bad crowd or has boy issues. maybe even has lost her virginity. it happens so young these days.
i raised 4 daughters.
just love her.
*hugs* and good luck

Answer 2

She's growing up. It seems like she's pushing your buttons to see how much she can get away with. If she won't tell you what's wrong with her, ask her why she's treating you like that. You are her parent and she should respect you. I know that you can't make kids do things past a certain extent but you can at least try to communicate with her. If she won't talk to you, you can call her school's guidance counselor and tell him/her that you're worried about your daughter and ask that the counselor talk to your daughter. I know it's not the same as your daughter talking to you, but maybe the counselor can get to the root of what's going on with your daughter and hopefully she'll be back to her old self in no time.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Your daughter is going through depression which is normal for girls her age, always tell her how pretty she is and keep her confidence level up as much as possible say all positive things to her, this will help her be able to talk to you. She may not feel comfortable talking to you because she may think you will say something negitive or you won't understand. Let her know that you will be understanding with what ever her problem is, you will be understanding and positive....YELL ALONE LATER! don't yell at her because then she won't be able to talk to you again. Stress how important it is for her to be happy... ask yourself too, are you happy around her?? Lots of times they act as their parents act, you may be rubbing off on her if you have a negative attitude. Do a self evaluation first, she may be mocking you. If thats not it, maybe she is mocking her father . Don't worry.. be happy

Answer 4

High school is aweful for some kids. Just like the world is to some adults. PUT YOURSELF IN HER SHOES, and act accordingly. She's becoming an adult now which means there's less you can do to help her and more things she has to figure out herself. The best thing you can do IS TO BE SUPPORTIVE and not go into super-parent mode and try and fix everything for her. Don't approach herwith cliche phrases but be honest and she will trust you.

Answer 5

There really is no medical term for this, shes just being a teenager. She probably feels like maybe you aren't giving her enough space, i dont know. You'll just have to wait it out, Teenager Syndrome is not fatal or something you have to worry about. If something is seriously wrong then she will come and tell you and ask for help, but right now shes just going through that 'stage'. Good Luck :)

Answer 6

sometimes the change of school being that your the youngest people in the school and no longer the oldest like she was being the 8 th grader can be difficult you want to be grown up and now you are right back to be the kids again , also maybe some friends she had didnt get to go to school shes in now and that upsetting , i would keep trying to talk to her or least let her know she can talk to you .

Answer 7

She mihht just be having a hard time adjusting to her new surroundings and new people. Maybe her friends aren't friends anymore and she has to make new ones. Maybe she has a crush on a boy that a friend is going out with. She's getting attitude formt eh other girls she sees at school - hence the talking back. Girls at highschool are very catty, and she's probably picking up their habits to be more familiar with them.

Answer 8

All the stuff everyone else has said. Perhaps you could ask her if she would feel more comfortable talking to a counselor (someone who by law can't reveal her secrets) or even moving schools. Big schools are not for everyone and it it's that stressful for her, she's not learning anyway. You can try one the combines inclass learning with self-homeschooling.

Answer 9

maybe something really bad happened and shes not sure how u would react to what happened. u just need to tell her that w/e she says u will listen to and help not yell. even if u need and want to yell first listen and see if theres something better to do. make her tell u cuz if its bad u need to help her. or if that doesnt work give her time and maybe if she stops she did resolve it. dont blame it on the school quite yet. i mean come on she just got to a completly different school give her a lil time.

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Answer 10

something must be happening in school. probably she has friendship problems, peer pressure, studies stress, or maybe a guy problem. she may be bullied by seniors too. you really have to find some time to sit and talk to her as friends. approach her in nice way then she'll share everything. this takes time, but it's worth a try.