I'm really trying to help a friend of mine.
She's always moody in class. Recently i asked her about it and she spilled everything. She has this really complicated family problem. And her parents are not understanding in any way. They always insult and mock her in front of relatives like uncles and aunts. They dont trust her and always look down on her at every angle. She said she feels so lost and stressed out at home. I really want to help her with that, but how can i?
other problem, she has a cousin who's twice her age living in the same house as she is (huge family). he has this lust of touching her. my friend tried to defend herself but he's too strong for her. recently he got drunked, grabbed her arm and asked "can i f*ck you?" which totally freak my friend out. i advised her to blurt it out to her parents, but she fears it might create another family problem since her parents hardly trust her. and that guy is sort of like a body guard of the family when her dad is not around.
2006-08-18 04:16:59 · 8 answers · asked by Stephanie K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wouldn't get a teacher or counsellor involved because they have no choice really but to get the State DFYS involved and she'll end up in foster care, which is really NOT where she wants to be. The experience at this point in her life would pretty much estrange her from her family for decades.
I would suggest telling all of this to your parents and then ask them to intercede by talking to your friend's parents. Your parents won't be comfortable with it and won't look forward to it, but they'll do what they can to help.
I'm sure your friend's parents have no idea how your friend is percieving their relationship with her, and that they also have no idea that the cousin is constantly restraining himself from a strong sexual attraction to their daughter.
2006-08-18 04:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jess Wundring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to turn in her cousin. Her parents should not let this go on. If he is harassing her there is a good chance this is not his first time sexually harassing someone. It is too bad that her parents put her down and mock her. Does she have a grandparent to talk to? The poor girl, no wonder she is moody in class. I am glad she has you for a friend.
Good luck to you and her.
2006-08-21 12:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her go to the school counselor they will get in touch with cps and remove her from the home. Parents will be notified of the problem. She can be placed with another member of the family out side the home if their is no one else she can request a friend if the friends parents agree. this happened to my daus. friend.Tell her not to be afraid she can get help.
2006-08-18 11:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by eyesad2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should immediately tell a teacher or a counselor at school, especially about the cousin. In most cases, cousins are like brothers and sisters almost. But in this case, he sounds like he is a real possible sexual predator in the house. No one should have to put up with that.
2006-08-18 11:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either tell a counselor, a favorite teacher, the police, or cps. if u have a good relationship with ur mom, then tell her also. the thing is to tell someone asap because this kind of abuse can't go on. hurry before the unthinkable happens: she conceives from her cousin. ask her if she wants to spend a few days with u and take it from there. good luck to u both.
2006-08-18 15:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs more help than you can give her. She needs to get out. This is abuse. She needs to confide in an adult who has the authority to help her. She's not going to want to. That's one of the things about abuse people find hardest to understand. True victims of abuse don't want to tell people who can help them. Sadly, telling her parents probably isn't the best solution in this situation. They may blame her more. And it is not her fault. Urge your friend to find an adult to talk to, maybe outside of school at a place for women in crisis. They'll undertstand and keep it confidential.
2006-08-18 11:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by February Rain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if her parents will not help her - seek a guidance counsler - if they wont help - seek the police - shes lucky to have a friend such as yourself - stay close to her - tell your parents whats going on so they know so you can be safe also , they may even have advice for you and her to help - they may even provide your home as a safe place for her - good luck to you and your friend
2006-08-18 11:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by g g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell a teacher or try to get a counciler from your school to help
(hope it works out)
2006-08-18 11:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋