Is it better to get married and have kids in your 20s or wait until your 30s?

Question

There are so many people who wait until they are almost 30 to get married and then have kids. Why is this?

Answer 1

Women-20's
Men-30's

Answer 2

I myself was 26. I was ready however from like 24/25. I think before that women are too young. I personally think that it is good in general to wait, you only live life once and once you have kids you miss out on so many opportunities. For instance, you can pick up and go on vacation, whenever and whereever you want as long as funds are there. I also wish I had more time with my husband, just the two of us, because once the children come, things will never be the same. Most people are also more financially secure by this stage in their life and usually have more patience and wisdom. The only drawback when you wait is, births can be more difficult for the woman and dangerous. Although nowadays that is changing with all the technology available. As well, the longer you wait, the more of a chance that you will not live to see your child graduate from school or perhaps get married. It's a personal decision and I can see all points of view. It is crazy though when you have 60 year olds out there having kids. Not only will they have a very good chance of not seeing them grow up but they won't have the physical strength to do things with their kids, sports, hiking, piggy backs etc. Thats the only age group that I think shouldn't be reproducing because its not fair to the kids.

Answer 3

Ok this is what I did, I got married at 22yo, had lots of fun!!!! of course I married the love of my life, so we decided to wait a while before having kids because we were just having fun, and plus we were both working and saved some money you know for the future so now that we will be 30 yo in the next 6 months we decided it is time for a little adition to the family, I am now 29 yo and pregnant with our first baby, we are both very happy and very ready to be parents. You can still get married around your 20's but what's most important is that you wait to have kids, remember the older you are the less mistakes you will make.

Answer 4

It depends on you! Some people get married too young and think that having a child will fix their marriage. Some people do it young b/c they think they are responsible enough to handle the problems that go along with kids and marriage. I have one friend who got married at 20 and had a kid at 21, and she is now 24. She is miserable and wished she had waited. I have another friend who is happily married, and is 23 with two kids.

I also have another friend who is 25, has been with her man for 4 years, but is waiting until she is older to get married. Some people want to live out their youth while they can. It's all up to you! Personally, I would like to pop one out at least by 30. I am only 23 now, and a kid to me sounds like a huge responsibilty that I do not want to take on quite yet.

Answer 5

I believe nowadays many more people want to have the "Sh*t together" before they go out and get married and have kids. I see alot now too. I think it's better. I wish now I would have done the same. Just not to rush things so fast. I had my first babe at 18 and now I am in my 20s married and preg with 2nd child. I still want to travel, and do fun adult things but now first thing is to take care of hubby and kids then when they are ok and grown (the kids) we will do those fun adult things ( only will be in our 40s and 50s though) geesh.

Answer 6

In your early 20s you are still getting to know who you are.

By the time you reach your mid to late 20s you should be secure in who you are and what you want from life.

If you chose a life partner too soon, you may find that after you've matured, you changed you mind about who that should be, and there you are either having to make the best of the situation or tear a family apart.

So, if you begin your search for the right person in your mid 20s and date for a couple of years [without shacking up] you should know each other and yourselves well enough to decide if marrying and starting a family is for you.

There are always exceptions...but if you're not certain of who you are and what you want, you are likely not that exception.

Answer 7

Wait Until You Feel Ready No One Can Tell You The Age You Will Feel Ready To Get Married ... Wait ATell You Find The Right Partner And You Feel You Want To Spend The Rest Of Your Life With Them .. Good Luck ...

Answer 8

I waited until I was 32. My wife was 31. Why...

We wanted to spend time with each other. Grow our relationship much stronger. Trust me, your going to need a strong relationship with your partner when the kids come along. You need time to love on each other. Get around the first two years newlywed love and puppy love. Grow a deep and strong love that is mature. It will do you good when kids come along. You can reley on it and lean on each other.

Your also more mature and can handle things better. You'll have a better job and/or make more money. You'll be more stable.

Plus, the two of you need time to travel, see the world, see the country, do some fun stuff, and have alot of sex. Alot of this slows down when the little angels come along.

My advice. Hang on until 28 or 30 to start your family. In the meantime, go crazy, see the world, love your partner, grow together, and have some wild, monkey lovin.

Answer 9

from an energy standpoint your 20s, from a maturity standpoint your 30s.

It really depends on your goals and perspective on life. you can try and do everything you wanted to do before kids, then your 30s or you can have them in your 20s and do everything in your 50s.

its a personal choice. But for a woman, once you hit 30 your reproductive system decreases, and in particular around 35.

Answer 10

20's, worked for me, I have 2 kids one 20, the other almost 22, and I'm 42. Been living it up since I was 38 years old, and still going.

If you wait until your 30's, what can you really do for fun in your mid 50's?