ok, my b/f asked me to merry him, and a few weeks ago i found out he made out with his friend. i want to trust him, but i get the feeling that he's cheating on me. but i love him so much. and we have future plans to get married and everything. what should i do? i've asked him a million times if he's cheating on me. he's denied it. but he denied ti the last time. should i believe him?
2006-08-18 03:49:17 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh no. Believe me its too early for these problems. At this point you should be all happy, trusty, and preparing everything for your wedding, not worrying if hes faithful or not.... this isn't going to work, marriage is a serious thing, please think about it.
2006-08-18 03:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Apollo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said he denied it the last time.... this is not the first time and you also found out that had made out with his friend.... you already know he did, no need to ask that. As far as trusting him, only you can decide that one, yet it seems you already do not trust him and most would not.... so the real question is..... Do you still want to marry him knowing he has more then once and more then likely will many more times, make out with other females? Can you marry and live with a man you can not or do not trust? Is it going to stress you out? Is he right for you? Answer these questions which only you can answer. I wish you the best of luck sweetie! Do what is right for you and what will make you happy. You may love him.... but does he really love you... and are you ok with what he is offering you.....
2006-08-18 04:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Sweet Pea don't sell yourself short just because you are comfortable with this guy. I know you all have probably been together for a while and you can't see yourself with anyone else b/c he is all you know right now. Sometimes we can get so used to a guy that we decide to get married and have kids because it's convenient. Let me tell you this, after marriage it only gets worse. You cannot change a man! You can only create an environment for him to see how good he has it. I'm not saying you shouldn't get married, but don't settle. If you a good woman, you deserve a man who would put out his own eye before he even looked at a woman as a possibility let alone actually cheat on you. This aint no fairy tale and he definitely aint no prince charming. If you don't have kids with him and can still put on a sexy dress and paint the town red, keep your options open b/c obviously he has.
2006-08-18 04:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I've asked him a million times if he's cheating on me. he's denied it. but he denied ti the last time. should i believe him?" First clue he's cheated before
Second clue he's lied about it before
Now let me give you a clue
Don't marry someone that has already cheated on you, because you apparently stayed and he knows you will stay again so he will keep on doing it. Get out now no amount of loving him is going to change him, plus divorce cost alot of money!
2006-08-18 03:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by daydreambeliever0000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. If he made out with his friend, he is not in love with you. People that love one another don't do that to each other. I suggest you put the wedding plans off until you know for a fact that he really cares for you and want cheat on you. It may take years, but it's better to know before you get married and have children. When you have children with someone you are bound to them until your children are grown. So think before you leap. Good luck
2006-08-18 04:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where you in a relationship with him when he made out or dated someone else? If so get rid of him he is a dud. If he cheats now he will do the same thing when married. If it was outside of the time you where together...get over it and look to yourself and improve your own confidence dont keep asking you may just give him a idea
2006-08-18 03:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by lyn b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if someone told you that your b/f made out w/ his friend then you have to consider the fact that it might be rumor. But if you saw him actually do that, then you should reconsider the whole marriage thing. I think you two should talk about it and see if you're going to be happy married or if he's going to cheat on you. I would give him one more chance and if he tries anything like that again, either dump him or be friends. That's just me tho. Good Luck!
2006-08-18 03:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by babyjon105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U think things will get better if u marry him? The only difference will be u will be his Wife, so therefore it will be harder for u to get rid of him, and easier for him to cheat. If he cant stay faithful while u guys are boyfriend/girlfriend what makes u think when ur husband/wife things will improve?
Is he serious about marrying u, or is this a way for him to "prove" he "really" "loves" you?
U are having these feelings for a reason...............listen to ur instinct, it will never steer u wrong
Be strong babe
2006-08-18 04:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater...always a cheater. They never stop...I married a guy that was a cheater and ended up divorced 2 years later. Don't marry him. Your just asking for trouble. Plus...a relationship is built on trust, if you don't trust him now then how can it really go anywhere else?
2006-08-18 03:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Selena L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing in a relationship is trust.if u don't trust him now,i don't think u would when u get married to him so i think u should drop the idea of getting married to someone that u're not sure if he's cheating on u.
2006-08-18 04:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by starqueen50 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u really love him ..
n hence somewhere u might jst b wantin 2 belive him...
n its perfectly okay...
but hey remember one thing..
few minutes and few vows will tie u wid him for a lifetime ...
but God forbid if he's not d right someone for u ...
if after marriage u find he's cheatin on u ..
then what??
girl its easy to tak the vows n den break d vows.. but generally broken vows leave bitter memories..
so i'd say dnt marry in these clouds f doubt ..
clear it all first ..
after all its a decision of lifetime..
n someone really "important" is involved n that is "u - urself"..
Good luck!!
2006-08-18 04:06:20 · answer #11 · answered by charoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋