I think i need to take a break from my boyfriend, so for the past three days i havent been taking any of his calls or returning them, i just need some time to think about us, i love him not breaking up with him. Guys do it all the time, not calling for days and give that excuse, is it ok for me to do it? Guys how would you react if your girl did this? Girls do you think its ok?
2006-08-18 03:40:52 · 34 answers · asked by SHE HATE ME 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think guys do it all the time and if we do its because were dumping you, I think you should be honest with your guy and explain to him that you just need a break.But what you need to ask yourself is why im taking a break from him, do i still love him, are the feelings still strong like when we first met, if not you need to break up with him cause your not happy, in most cases taking a break means you wanna dump him, i wouldn't react at all but i would be hurt but thats just me speaking not sure what your BF would do but your best bet is to be honest with him because when it is time to answer to him why you haven't returned his call hes gonna be mad and may dump you and your gonna fell stupid and that goes for men doing it to women hope this helps
2006-08-18 03:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by gerry d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is quite alright to take that break. It is good to take some time away from the situation so you can have a peace of mind to sort it all out and that way, you can make better decisions for your future. However, if you love him as you say you do, just explain it all to him about what it is you are doing and that you need the time to do it so he would not think you are trying to get rid of him. Otherwise, by the time you figure it is time for you to resume your relationship with him, he might not be there. It will then be your lost, of course, that depends on what type of individual he is. Good luck.
2006-08-18 03:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I am going through the same thing right now, and it is so hard not to call or text or email him. The question to ask is: How does it make you feel when you don't call and haven't talked to him in a long time? Do you feel empowered? Do you think more clearly? After time away from him do you feel depressed, sad, or guilty? If it hurts you more than him to be away then you need to question the direction of the relationship. When he doesn't call you for days how does it make you feel? I bet you feel sad and rejected and a little hurt. If he is just as serious about you he would feel the same way. If you aint callin him, he should definitely be blowin up yo phone. If he really feeling you he wouldn't go without talkin to you for days. Make sure what you are feeling when away from him are really your honest true feelings and not the feelings that come with the thoughts of him possibly not wanting to be with you. Hell yeah its okay, but be true to yourself mama.
2006-08-18 03:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I can dig that. Sometimes you just need a break, But dont take too long because you might end up loosing in the end. It's the only Option sometimes.
2006-08-18 03:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves some time alone.. It is human nature. But to make sure he understands tell him you love him and that everything is ok you just need some "me time". If he can't respect you and let you be for a few days then he is not worth your time.
2006-08-18 03:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's disrespectful of you to disregard his feelings and just ignore him. I can understand avoiding the drama by not telling him what's going on, but you're just making it worse in the end for yourself.
Set aside thirty minutes to an hour today, and call him. Tell him what's going on in your head. Tell him you just need some room to breathe, that it's not his fault. Just be prepared for him to say something you may not like.
2006-08-18 03:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by still waiting 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok. If you don't want to talk to him don't talk to him. In "the break up" Jennifer Aniston's character says "I don't want you to wash the dishes, I want you to want to wash the dishes." I think its true for relationships where he doesn't really want you to call and just have nothing to say, really not want to talk to him and have a sh*t conversation. He really wants you to want to talk to him. So I say do what you're going to do, and if he's gonna get his panties in a bunch about it he will. But as long as you're incredible enough of a person for him to know he should stick around, do whatever you want.
2006-08-18 03:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should at least tell him something...tell him you need a couple of days to yourself. I don't think it's ok for guys or girls to just stop communicating.
2006-08-18 03:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i'm not a guy but i know if i did it to my bf he'd get mad, i don't know about your boyfriend, if he's sensitive and all that.. he might get hurt if you don't pick up his calls, but if you really need the time to think than go for it, especially if he's done it to you before.
this guy i knew would always be like sorry i was sleeping , even if it's like 7 or 8 p.m. and one time he was talking to me 3a.m and i was like i'm gonna go to sleep now,sorry! then he never called back,ever!
so you don't want that to happen with you and your boyfriend.. but that all depends on how much space you need to think.
2006-08-18 03:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by carla h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's like a male code. They usually do that so they should get the message that you need a break.
2006-08-18 03:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by youtubefreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋