I have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years so far. I love my boyfriend very much. At one stage however, he and I had a very rough patch and I needed someone in my life I could share my thoughts and feelings with. I found this person...who I do not love and never will, and had a romance with. No, i did not sleep with him, but close enough. This is something I regret tremendously. I can't be honest and open with my boyfriend about this. This will devastate him. I will probably lose him too. I have read so much into this situation. If I don't say anything, the guilt will devour me, and will prevent me from being me when we talk. I find I can't talk to him. All i can do is think about how i have hurt him. I know I can't take it back. Is there any hope for me? I'm so lost. Is there anyone, with anything particular to mention that could help me as to what I am to do.
Chickypooh
2006-08-18 03:31:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women always want to "share", keep it to yourself.
After 4 years, you guys should figure out how to live closer or move on.
2006-08-18 03:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really tough one.
If you're just confessing to alleviate your guilt, don't do it. Although I believe in honesty, I can't get on board with hurting someone else just to ease your own mind.
On the other hand, if my boyfriend had a romance, I'd want all the facts so that I could decide if I should go forward or not. What sucks is that you shouldn't lose someone you love over something like this. I can't think of a happy medium.
Good luck.
2006-08-18 03:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is hope....but I have a question for you. What do you think your bf did when this happened. I would say the same as you. Don't beat yourself up over it and get over it. Move on.
2006-08-18 03:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if telling him is going to hurt/ end your relationship you should really think if what you did was so terrible and if it really is making you feel guilty. because it does not sound so bad to me. you said you did not sleep with him, you don't love him and do not plan on having a relationship with this guy, so why do you feel that guilty about it?
2006-08-18 03:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by mint tea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where you two broke up for that period of time? is yes then there should be nothing to worry about. if no its still best to tell the truth to him, he loves you so much he will prob. forgive you. and remember to tell him that you didnt have sex with him.
2006-08-18 03:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋