I need advice I'm broken hearted by now.
2006-08-18 03:30:32 · 25 answers · asked by den-den r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm sorry to hear that... =T....i think what u need to do, is let this pain go. not that it's easy, but eventually, and u have to work on it.
think of it this way; u love this person right? u loved, cared, respected, and took care of this person right? for whatever reasons, you guys broke up. most likely, since u were sad, i'm assuming that u tried to make things work and he didn't do enough.
instead of being really sad, and feeling bad about Yourself, look at what u've done. you have Loved someone. you have Committed to someone. so you know that you are a pretty damn good girlfriend! you would do what it took to make him happy, EVEN THOUGH he was mean to you, or didn't appreciate it! do u see how strong u actually are? to have put up with him, and been unhappy, but still would have wanted him back? that is really loving someone, no matter what they do to you.
now, the problem here though is not loving this person. be happy, be proud of urself that u have that capability to love. the problem hwever, is that HE didn't have that same capability! he didn't appreciate your love and committment, he didn't take care of u, he didn't satisfy ur needs and wants. so why are You the one who is sad? you can't control other people's actions, but u can control yours. therefore u need to have a change in how you perceive yourself, and the relationships around you.
if u know that u were a Good Girlfriend, and you can be confident that you would do what it takes to make your boyfriend happy... why is it that you don't expect to have a Good Boyfriend? why do u allow someone to treat u badly...? it doesn't really make sense.. yes u do love him, but the question is, is this relationship Good, Positive, and Healthy for you? probably not, if u are so broken hearted and so unsatisfied, so unfulfilled by what he's done to you.
what u need to do first, is be confident in urself. work on ur appearance, feel better about urself. work on ur knowledge, study, read the news, develop ur own opinions. be able to discuss topics w/ friends, family and strangers. the more u work on urself, the more u will feel better about urself, and the more u will see that u deserve someone who also works on himself! someone who will treat u right, because you treat him right. there's nothing wrong with wanting that for urself, and for ur partner. because that's a Healthy relationship.
u need to Think...with your Heart. your emotions are going crazy...but ur brain is rational. and it will tell u that in ur relationship, it wasn't that perfect. he didn't always take care of you, it wasn't always fair, even though u would've done anything to make him happy. therefore, u need to think with ur heart.
good luck.
2006-08-18 03:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on what the reason he broke your heart. Did he break for his own selfishness or because he thinks by breaking your heart he will make you realize something that you never did which is important for both of you in your relationship. Maybe you should think a bit deeper and talk to him on why he did so. Then you mind will be clearer to decide to continue loving him or not.
2006-08-18 10:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably shouldn't. If you are still broken hearted about it, you still need time to heal and get yourself together before getting back in the same situation again.
2006-08-18 10:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... I had a girl that I truly loved that broke my heart... I still love her.... I am not big on the idea of letting her that close to my heart again, but I can't deny that I still love her.
2006-08-18 10:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by Matt B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was deeply in love with my ex, and when we broke up, i still loved him for a long time, and he still has a piece of my heart. the ones we truly loved never get completely eraesed.
2006-08-18 10:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by sadie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but it takes time to heal a broken heart.
2006-08-18 10:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by Myra A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no mate, you dont have to, hey you will get through it, when your heart wants to, most of us go through it but try and do something that you love to do, or think of the things that you hated about this person, maybe that will help a little,
2006-08-18 10:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't *have* to love anyone. If by breaking your heart, you mean you were on the receiving end of any kind of abuse, including infidelity, then the sooner you get him/her/it out of your head, the better.
2006-08-18 10:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by portianay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he broke your heart why love him? he didn't love u when he broke your heart!!!! Thing about this.....i've been thru it at the end i had nothing but hate for this person....MOVE ON
2006-08-18 10:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Vicky P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart....I know it is hard, but when a redneck girl like you has her heart "broked" by her cousin, she still is required to love him!!!
Huggs and Kisses,,,
Lonnie
2006-08-18 10:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by lonnie_m_d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋