I'm looking into asking my girlfriend to attend a couples counciling... Is it too much to ask her for? How should I ask her to do this?
2006-08-18 03:12:52 · 11 answers · asked by mike! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not. Sometimes it's not that you two don't love each other or accept each other, you just don't know how to communicate in a way that's productive for you. Assess what you want in the long term. A lot of engaged couples have to go through therapy before getting married as the church (depending on religion) requires it. You aren't engaged, but it's the same premise. If you know you want a long term future but there are some things you don't see eye to eye on and you think a third party may help than why not? Opposites attract but they also can sometimes get in the way of something in it's developmental stages. I am going through it with my boyfriend. And we have learned more about ourselves than each other..LOL. We know we want to get married but in order to be the best person for each other there are some things we never really handled in the best way or communicated in the best way. Why not learn now?? And if it comes to that we aren't meant to be..than so be it. But we want to be able to say we were the best we could be for each other and in our "not so strong" moments we worked at it through every possible avenue.
2006-08-18 03:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Soul S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I tried it, I mean the counciling part. But Im married and I have a 5 month old son. Man if she is still your girlfriend and you are having a lot of trouble, hang up the spikes and go for another one, You dont need to be sufferinf if there is no reason for ti, come on I have a son but you are free I suppose, so break up with her and look for another girl. Have you listen to the beatles?
2006-08-18 10:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rodanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's up? Most men have to be dragged kicking & screaming.
Are you wondering about the relationship? Are you having problems? Are you being pressured by someone else? Is this pre-marital; I mean have you already proposed?
Whatever the reason, tell your girlfriend that you want to do this with her. That it's important to you. Even if she thinks it's ridiculous, ask her to go to a few, just for you. See if she'll do that. If not...........................
2006-08-18 10:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend? If you need counciling and they are only a girlfriend, move on a find someone you get along with naturally.
2006-08-18 10:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by lynddd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is ideally give and take. If you always give and she always takes (or vice versa) it's going to get awfully impossible very quickly. You have every right to ask her to go to counseling. How do you ask her? Gently, kindly, but very firmly.
2006-08-18 10:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's a great idea if for instance, she really loves you but has issues in her past that are holding her back. I think it shows that you really care, but make sure that you tell her that you love her, and don't want to change her, that you want to be able to be together and happy for a long time.
2006-08-18 10:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it healthy to need counseling while you should still be in the wooing/honeymoon/courting stage? if it's worth it to you both to work things out, then i definitely don't think it's too much to ask.... but be sure you've evaluated your relationship correctly
2006-08-18 11:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the problem but why not. Shouldn't not hurt.
2006-08-18 10:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by tasgilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy never works at at least not for me.
2006-08-18 10:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you both need counseling?
2006-08-18 10:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋