what is the matter with me, i have never loved sex, and i have a fear of catching something or of haveing a child, neither of this i want, i had a great child hood, so its not like i have been hurt in my past, and my health is ok, my doctor just gives me a smile, when i tell him, and tells me to talk about it, allso i can never sleep at night, im to wide awake of the night, but i have tried a lot of things to help me sleep and nothing seems to work for me, and no im not on drugs
2006-08-18 03:11:26 · 16 answers · asked by louise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i could prob help you if you like to chat about it email me. of course you can use condoms and birth control pills as an added protection.
2006-08-18 03:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a mental health specialist. You do not mention whether you are single or not, I assume you are. If you are in a loving longterm relationship, you need to overcome the fact of trust you have for your partner. There is nothing wrong with insisting that you and your partner be tested for STDs prior to sex. As far as pregnancy, Im sure you are aware of the multitude of choices you have to prevent pregnancy. If you are really affected by this fear, use several. (BC pills, and a diaphragm for example. Each has a 99.9% effective rate, and in combo, your chances of winning the lottery are better than getting pregnant).
However, I do think you have to face any pschological issues that may be affecting this. Sex is far too important part of ones life to be fearful of.
2006-08-18 10:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your difficulty with sleeping makes you feel tired all the time and takes away your sex-drive.
Getting enough sleep every day is a part of being healthy. And if you are not getting enough sleep, then you have a health problem which you need to take care of.
2006-08-18 10:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the few times you did have sex, they were"traumatic" for whatever reason. maybe you don't see them as traumatic, but they kinda "rubbed you soul the wrong way" or something like that. I know for me, in the begining, when i started having sex, i wasn't very goood at it, and that would make me nervous or i'd
worry about never making the guy come, and i never worried about my "O" so i never really enjoyed sex. lol now im like a fiend.
so I'd say, "practice males perfect" you'll just have to keep
"trying" find out what you like and don't like, you have to gain confidnce in yourself before you can have mutual enjoyable sex
2006-08-18 10:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not matter of sex only chage your mood look sexually atrracted magazine blue film to get more attracted for sex then you may cross the hurdle its natural for some human beings talk with your partner play with your body with your partner try to seduce
2006-08-18 10:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by sanjay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm. just come over ur fear and end up in some bed. dont worry thier is Condom on earty. and tablets for her not being pregent. so
Go Go Go do it
2006-08-18 10:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by jaishankar4202002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're nomal. Sexual lust or passion for women is largely a myth and it's mostly a way having babies and a happy marriage for them. And you wouldn't to have it before you're married, anyway.
2006-08-18 10:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
drink a doubleshot of booze you well sleep and you mont wake with a hang over .as for the sex thing some are celabate my be you to
2006-08-18 10:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
look maybe your gay and sex can be a sleep aid but you might need drugs
2006-08-18 10:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by pretty gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex is a source of happiness.!!^_^
Dont be afraid. besides it's a blessing to have a child, and always ask guidance from our almighty God.
2006-08-18 10:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by den-den r 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋