A while ago I was looking at a post about a person whose life read like a nightmare, abusive parents, medical problems, a suicide attempt, etc. One of the respondents wrote:
“People who have bad lives make up for it when they go to heaven!”
Part A)___ What do you think of this response? Would it be helpful to someone who was having a hard life?
Part B)___ What do you think is the best thing one can do for someone who is suffering?
2006-08-18 03:11:06 · 14 answers · asked by Pablito 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
a) I think it's trite, and not very helpful
b) Just offer a shoulder to cry on, and don't ever try and make sense of it for them, unless they ask your opinion....
2006-08-18 03:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by blubuttbaboon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part A) I think that is a bad answer. It very well may be true but it sure won't mean anything to someone suffering now.
Part B) I think best thing and way to minister is to get involved in that person's life. You cannot erase or stop any type of abuse or medical problems. However, you can be a friend. A real friend, not just someone who says little motivational things. You can call this person...invite him or her to lunch or over for dinner. Go with this person to medical appointments. Help this person get help---go with this person to get help. Pray Pray Pray for this person. Pray WITH this person. Become a part of this person's life. Disciple this person. You don't have to do all of these things but let this person know that someone does care. Someone does think he or she is important. This is time consuming and requires alot of energy so I am sure it won't appeal to all. We all do have our own life and problems. So, I would take it slow. Be a friend. If you are going out with friends invite this person along. If there is an event at church, invite this person. One way to make someone feel important is to ask them to pray with you. Tell them you struggle also and need their help by praying with you.
anyway, those are just some thoughts. Oh and if this is an online relationship---email correspondence would be encouraging also.
2006-08-18 10:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Quinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) No It is not True that People Who have Bad Lives go to Heaven...
You can go to heaven only if your Present activities are good...
People who have Bad life certainly had Bad Sinful activities in the Past otherwise God wont punish some one for doing nothing...
There are many people who have very torn life and are still Athiest and think of them selves as God !! .. They will not accept the authority of God.. Many times these Athiests Sin more as a revenge to the Punishment that God has given upon them...Such people will end up suffering even more in Hell...
This is Law of Karma or Law of Nature
This kind of statement is helpful if the person is Engaged in service of God or atleast Pious Activities.. Because for Such Person, Suffering will end and happiness will come as a result of the present activities..
B) There are many People who will tell you that they are Having a very wonderful Life.. But the truth is that we all are suffering in some way or other... According to Bhagavad Gita - Birth, Death, Oldage and Diseases are the Main Suffering...
Bhagavad Gita states that the Best thing to do is to some how or other, make People inculding our Selves, take shelter of God or Krishna as God is capable of forgiving all the Sins .. That is the only Permanant Solution. All other solution are temporary...
Just as for a Lost Child suffering on the streets, the best help is to take him back to his Rich Father ...
Then all Suffering will end... Some may give him Food, or Clouth or Medicine etc ..these are good but all these are temporary..
When the lost child is back to his Father, that ends all his Problems
2006-08-18 10:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Parsu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for someone having bad or suffering somehow is to help him help himself, and this is the most you can do, if he won't help himself, all other efforts from even all the man kind put together won't work.
You can tell him to look at the good part in the problem and do his best to solve it. And in Case it's out of his hand, like a disease or whatever, he has to be patient be sure God will be there for him for his patience.
And about the response you attached with the question, here's my opinion about it:
1 - It's VERY GOOD for every one to know that whatever he/she suffers in this life, God will make up him/ her for his patience for that suffering.
2 - Not every one in a trouble will respond to this little piece of advice, so you need more than this like I tried to explain above.
2006-08-18 10:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Green visitor is back :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone is going through great suffering, if you know the person well enough you can be there for them. Pray with and for them.
I also think
part a) this response is not very thorough but yes the person was trying to help the hurting one.
part b) see above.
We can only bear with one another through it all.
Sometimes it helps to know others too have felt the same pain.
Wish them love and pray for them.
It's darkest before dawn.
When one door closes another opens, look not at the closed one, rather search for the opened one.
That's what I think.
2006-08-18 10:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by elibw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A- I don't really know that its completely accurate- We ALL will have good lives in Heaven.
If someone is a believer then they may be comforted by that.
B- I really think that the best thing to do for someone who is suffering is to just be there for them. Be a good listener and support the person.
2006-08-18 10:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part A- they could have worded that much better. But it does give me comfort that this world is not my home and someday i'm leaving it.
Part B-The best thing to do for someone who is suffering is present Jesus' love to them, pray for them, and be there for them (if you can, it doesn't work on Yahoo Answers) and don't put on airs and act better than....come to their level and tell them what God did for you when you were where they were at...because we all have suffered from deep pain at one time.
2006-08-18 10:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by Freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PART A
The answer given could be seen as encouraging the person to commit suicide.
It would have been more helpful to have empathised & given possible ideas as to how the problems can be dealt with & solved.
Telling someone that things will be better for them once they are dead isn't helping them to find happiness & deal with their problems now. It's telling them that once dead they will be happy.
PART B
Help them to find solutions / ways of coping with the problems they currently have.
Empathise with them & let them know they aren't alone & they can get through this & be happy.
2006-08-18 10:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is near you take part in his suffering. But you are far from that person, pray for HIM with burden so that the LORD will work to release HIM. At the end it is GOD's will.
God Bless.
Edwin
2006-08-18 10:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by edwin_mony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All things will be made right. I think the person who said things would be made right is correct.
You can pray for them and if there is anything you can do within your power, give them money, food, clothing, shelter then do it, maybe watch their kids, or sick relative for a bit.
2006-08-18 10:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) I think it's a horrible thing to say given the suicide attempt.
B) Listen to them.
2006-08-18 10:21:30 · answer #11 · answered by l00kiehereu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋