When someone breaks up with you, and says it's over, and then calls you and texts you what is that saying?

Question

I was with my boyfriend for over 3 years, we were planning a wedding in October. His mom was going to live with us, and to make a long story short, my mom didn't think it was right and told my Fiance offand his mom also. The wedding is off and we broke up. He told me we were done and that he would always be there for me. We didn't talk for about a week, well now for the past 2 wks, he calls or texts me every single day. Last week we went to the Ia state fair together. in 2 or three more weeks we are going fishing. Wearn't together, but it sure feels like old times. My heart breaks on a regular basis and I REALLY believe he is my sole mate and he still loves me. It's like a Romeo & Juliet story, we love each other but my mom said at one time I will show you misery if you don't leave my daughter alone. He can't get past that. My mom feels bad now and wishes she didn't do what she did! We are 10 yrs. apart but it doesn't seem like that. He also has Diabetes & doesn't take care of him well

Answer 1

I went through the same thing almost.

It sounds like his accountablity to you is off, but the sense of being with you is still there.

Also sounds like your letting him do it.

Answer 2

I have some comments, as I have been in a similar place before, but be forwarned, you aren't going to like what you hear, and I am not going to sugar coat it.

My motto is: "You broke up for a reason. So, why get back together?"

Meaning, there was a MAJOR reason to make you break up (especially if you were engaged to be married in 2 months), and I bet there is more underlying than just your mom (maybe not on your side, but at least on his side of things). And even if it just happened to be your mom, you will always have an udnerlying feeling that this will happen to you again, and it will haunt you.

Odds are, if you try to get back together successfully, the same issues will just come up and you will break up again.

But, let's get back to the present. Why are you letting him string you along like this? You are just torturing yourself. You need to tell him that he broke up with you, and that he needs to leave you alone.

In fact, it seems like he wants something out of you. Maybe sleep with you because he won't get any regularly.

And, call me a cynic, but there is no Romeo & Juilet story. That's crap. You are just heartbroken and trying to justify wanting to be around him, but you are only making the break up worse on yourself.

Don't be in denial, you came to this message board for a reason, and did you seriously think you would get a postitive responce? No.

You need to cut ties, so you can heal and move on. Talk to your girlfriends, and tell them you need them, and hang out with them, but don't hang out with him. You are only making the inevitible worse on yourself.

Answer 3

Your mom should not have gotten involved in your relationship. I assume that you are an adult in your own right. If the two of you are still in it for the long run I think you should re-kindle the flames and go ahead with your life plans. The part I do not agree upon is the one about his mom moving in with you. A newly wed couple needs their space. I'm sure his mom will be just fine on her own. Good luck.

Answer 4

Your mom is right, You deserve better than that. Would you like to be stuck with a person that doesn't take good care of himself and drag along with his mother too? that is way too much resposability for a young lady and a newlywed, newlyweds need privacy and need a good foundation.
It will be like carrying a big load on your shoulders, if you know that you can deal with a sick person and his mother forever, then elope and the hell with whatever everybody else thinks.

Good luck

Answer 5

It means that he wants to have his cake and eat it too.

He broke it off and he has to deal with the consequences. You need to move on with your life, and show him that you're serious about it. Tell him that he's the one who broke it off, and you have accepted it and that you're trying to move on with your life. It's okay to be friends, but it's not appropriate or right for him to be calling you every day and to still go on dates as if nothing as happened. It sounds like you need a commitment - if he can't give it to you then you need to find someone who does. If he is really your soulmate, then things will just happen. Maybe the timing is just off - or maybe he needs some distance to see how crazy he was to let you go. But you cannot wait for him forever. If he's really your soulmate, you'll find each other again but don't put a hold on your life for someone who's not sure about how he feels.

Answer 6

Mom needs to apologize. Even if she was right.

Now, if you are broken up, then you need to behave that way & stop doing things with this guy. You're heart will NEVER heal under the circumstances. Tell him this. You love him very much but you can't keep doing this; and stick to your guns. If he wants to be with you then he will say HECK to all this nonsense and be with you. Otherwise you will know where you actually stand in the line-up.....before or after [either] Mom.

Did I say, Mom needs to apologize?

Answer 7

if he truely wanted to be with you he would have stayed around in the first place, maybe he was scared of comitment all the wedding talk was too much for him. so now the pressure is of he is feeling more comfatable with the situation and hes back having fun with you.

Answer 8

You won't want to hear this so you can pass right on by. One of the things a couple need to do for each other is take care of one another. If he can't take care of himself, how on earth is he going to take care of you? If you think you can take care of him AND you (and maybe his mother too) you are going to be one exhausted young lady.

Answer 9

Considers this is in no part your fault, i think he still really wants to be with you. If your mom feels sorry for what she did, you have to get her to apologize to him and consent to the wedding. Dont miss this oppurtunity to be with your 1.

Answer 10

I would say he is just trying to keep you on the hook in case he ever decides he May want you back. If you showed interest in another guy, he would come running back, but it may only be temporary.