My husband is "saved" I am not and have no desire to be, his parents try converting me what do I do?

Question

Seriously this makes for an uncomfortable family situation...

wow, so many responses! For those who say I need to speak to my hubby, um, I have, duh! These people are unrelenting and forceful! I will never be "saved" I AM an atheist and have no desire or interest. I've tried the sitting there pretending to listen thing. These people are crazy they have full out tried to save me from lectures to letters now they're kinda subtle about it but I just want them to STOP!!! I am at the point beyond contempt for these people.

Answer 1

I've been in a situation where someone close to me was "saved" and I had no interest. If you have a religion, you can use that, simply say "thank you for you kind offer, buut I'm satisified with my own spirtuality."

Honestly though, they'll never stop. Part of being born again or being saved is converting others. Hell, I was almost baptized at a thanksgiving dinner one year by my ex husbands parents in an attempt to "save" me. I barely escaped.

You could also try telling them you have a hard time converting to a religion that forgives ALL SINS, including pedophilia and murder. All a person has to do is accept JC and his sins are washed away. Needless to say, this is a very popular religious choice in prison and on death row. I don't want to go to heaven with John Wayne Gacy, thank you very much!

Good luck, and stay strong!

Answer 2

I can imagine it does make it uncomfortable. NOt all Christians however are born again christians, most christians are baptized either at birth or when they choose to join a certain denomination.

Do you have your own faith beliefs? Do you attend another type church, mosque, temple?

I think all you have to say is I appreciate that these are your beliefs, but I have my own belief system thank you and would prefer to attend those services. It doesn't have to be an angry confrontation and your husband, despite being saved himself should honour your wishes and tell his parents to butt out. Spiritual or religious beliefs are very personal but some churches believe that they have to convert everyone who is not of their belief system to their belief system or they won't go to heaven. It's not written any one particular church has an instant pass into heaven anyway, no matter what they try and tell you.

Answer 3

Talk to your husband. Tell him you have know problem with him being saved. But just because he was, you are not going to change your belief system. Tell him you respect his decision and his parents. But his parents need to stop trying to convert you because it makes you uncomfortable and you are worried that in the end, it could really effect the relationship between you and your in-laws and even with him.

Answer 4

First of all, you should realize tht they are most likely sharing Jesus w/ you out of love & concern. As your family, they have the responsibility to tell you the truth. According to the Bible, if you reject Christ, you will not be able to enter heaven. We are eternal beings made in God's image. Where u live after this temporal life is up to you. I would thank your in-laws & ask them to keep praying for you. Ultimately, it is the Holy Spirit tht can change your heart. He stands at the door of your heart & knocks quietly & patiently. God is good and merciful. Today is the day of salvation.
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Answer 5

For the sake of easing tensions, at least consider what they have to say. If he is your husband, and you love him as you say you do, give him the benefit of the doubt. If nothing else, tell him this verse from the Bible:

1 Corinthians 7:14 "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy."

Although (and I speak also as a born again Christian) it would be better for you, that you were saved, so that there are no conflicts between you... let him know that through his faith, you and your children are sanctified as well. It would be well enough.

Answer 6

Tell them, No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day. John 6:44
Also tell them if they can prove to you Jesus was born December 25th ( He was born in Oct ) Also if they can prove to you that Jesus or God Changed the Sabbath day from the first day of the week to the seventh day of the week, ( They did not , the Catholic Church did) that you may very well think about it.

Let me know what happens. Church of God at [e-mail] You have a great day.

Answer 7

Politely tell them that if you want any info. concerning thier religion
then you will ask and to please stop with the over bearing control
tactics trying to convert you. It is your life and you make those
decisions for your self and right now you don't want any of it. I have this problem too and you just can't let them walk all over you honey. Good luck. By the way, if they persist then they
deserve what ever out break you may give them in defense of yourself.

Answer 8

It's difficult for them as well. They think they know "the right way" and that if you don't follow it, you'll be damned for eternity. Understand they they are trying to "save" you because they care for you and love you and want what they feel is best.

But, you need to explain to them that their pressure is putting you off. That maybe if they give you time and let you think it through you'll be able to make a real decision, rather than just giving in to them for the sake of keeping them quiet. It's better to be saved if you really believe it rather than do it just for their sake.

Maybe that'll help.

Answer 9

That is a tough question.

As I see it, you basically have two options. First, you can tell them, politely but firmly, that you prefer not to talk about religion. Tell them you appreciate that they're trying to help, but that you're not comfortable discussing it.

The other option is to just take it in stride. You can nod your head and act like you're listening, and tell them noncommital things like, "I'll think about that," or "I'll consider that." Of course, if you do that, they will probably keep hounding you and trying to follow up.

Personally, I would suggest going with the first option. Discuss it with your husband first, though. It's better if you present a united front.

Answer 10

2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

You will have problems because of your non belief. Not wanting to be a part of somthing with your husband that can bring wonderful things into your life, is quite selfish on your part.
But as long as you remain married to your husband, there is always hope for you.

Here's a thought for you....

If you dont' believe in being saved, then why did you marry before God? Because He is the only one who can ordain a marriage.