the things is... my boyfriend is 16 and i'm 15. he recently told me that his uncle will be sending him to manila on the second sem to manila and manila is a very far place from here in cagayan. i don't want him to go because i love him so much and i don't want him to leave me. he told me that he's going to come back for me but i don't believe it. what should i do in order to convince him to just stay here in cagayan? anyways, it's not yet sure if he will really go. but my worst fear is that what he is saying might just come true. he told me that if i break up with him, it would be okai for him because he knows that he will not regret loving me because he knows deep inside that he has already let me feel that he has loved me. i don't want his answer. help me! what should i do just i order to make him stay here! help me!
2006-08-18 02:34:46 · 14 answers · asked by eds 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't do anything to stop him if he has made up his mind (or if it was made up for him). I know it is hard now, but you will get over it and you will find someone even better and you will fall in love again.
2006-08-18 02:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't hold on to someone and block his freedom no matter how much you love him.You are just 15 and he's 16 and both of you have so much to live,learn and go thru in life.By going to Manila he might be a better person and learn what's life is all about and you're not being fair by holding him back.
Don't worry,if he really loves you,no matter where he goes,he will always will come back to you,as a better person.Give your love a chance to prove that it can beat any test that comes it's way.
God bless.
2006-08-18 02:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by The busy baker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters you can stop whineing about how much you love him, and stop being so selfish. Remember it takes TWO to be in a relationship. You don't think this move might effect him also? In a relationship it's not all about you and your feelings.
If you LOVE him then you TRUST him, and somehow you will make it work. Life happends, and thinks you do not like will happen in life. Just enjoy the time you have together now, and allow him to be the man he's going to grow up to be.
If you don't trust him, then you don't really love him and it's a waste of time for the both of you.
2006-08-18 02:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by pogowolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, i know it's gonna be hard for you, but you either gotta break up if you really cannot take a distance relationship or you can wait for him if you have enough trust in him. Your choice..
It's not a good idea to make him stay and i know you hate me saying this..if he has to go, he has to go..You gotta be strong and prove to him that you are strong without him around.
You are still very young, till you are older, you will know what's: "If you love that person, let him/she go and do whatever they like, they will appreciate and love you even more...No pain, no gain."Don't ever let your bf feel unease with you and force him to make a choice between you and the trip..Wish him good and come back soon if you decided to wait for him. I know it's difficult for you..I feeling this way too at a period of time, but in the end, luckily my bf didn't leave me alone..If not i don't know how to live my life...But we still have to try... Good luck Girl..It's a tough decision...
2006-08-18 02:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by barelyahrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that he told you it was OK to let him go....now that should give you a clue that he's not ready for a permanent relationship. You are pushing him away with this "needy" behavior. Let the boy have a life! If he really loves you, he'll come back. This is called GROWING UP !!
2006-08-18 02:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you really love him, you should let him go. set him free.. sounds like a cliche but it's true. i'm a filipino and i'm sure there's a lot of good opportunities in manila. so let him have his experience. if he likes you back, then he'll return just for you. consider this situation as a test of how much he really loves you.
2006-08-18 02:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get pregnant. hehe biro lang. mmmm.... well, maybe you should trust him a bit on his word that he's gonna come back to you. but doesn't that mean that he could go out with another girl there in Manila? Long-distance relationships do work pero he must commit too, diba?
2006-08-18 02:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by crage_ralius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but you're gonna have to let him go. If you try to hold him back he will only resent you. Let him go and if he comes back to you then it was meant to be. Go on with your life. I don't think that he would want you to put your life on hold for him as you probably not want him to put his life on hold for you. Good luck sweety.
2006-08-18 02:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your pregnant. or better yet go to manila with him! its a great place if you have money....
2006-08-18 02:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has to go, keep in contact with him, i think that he loves you very much so he will be back to get you. you should have no worries.
2006-08-18 02:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋