what do you think about living with your parents?

Question

i am 27 and have been on my own since i was 18. the bills are piling up, i don't love my job and want some time to think about what to do with my life, and live in an area where good jobs are hard to find. do i stick it out to be independent and have my own life or do i move back in with my parent's for a year and save money? has anyone done this and not been miserable?

Thanks for the advice. My parents are amazing and I'm very close with them and they would LOVE to have me for a year or so while I pay off massive amounts of student loans. They are very loving but I did make the choice to pay for my own school. I feel good about doing it for a year and have a lot of respect for my parents and would never take advantage of them. I think Golden Oldy is so rude for telling me to act my age when she doesn't even know me or my situation. I appreciate the advice, but keep the negative jabs for people you truly know and understand. I asked this for the great, mostly helpful and realistic advice and not to have some stranger judge me. I am not planning on freeloading from my parents, but rather I am blessed with a family that supports each other. Thanks!

Thanks for the advice. My parents are amazing and I'm very close with them and they would LOVE to have me for a year or so while I pay off massive amounts of student loans. They are very loving but I did make the choice to pay for my own school. I feel good about doing it for a year and have a lot of respect for my parents and would never take advantage of them. I think Golden Oldy is so rude for telling me to act my age when she doesn't even know me or my situation. I appreciate the advice, but keep the negative jabs for people you truly know and understand. I asked this for the great, mostly helpful and realistic advice and not to have some stranger judge me. I am not planning on freeloading from my parents, but rather I am blessed with a family that supports each other. Thanks!

Answer 1

I've not ever moved back with my parents and my kids have never moved back in with me. But I can see where it would be absolutely miserable for any of us if we did that.

Most folks at your age are very independent and well on their way to adulthood. It'd be difficult to return to the nest & be subjected to someone else's house rules again.

The only way I could see that happening is if the place you're moving back to had an basement apartment, a mother in law suite, garage apartment or some other kind of separate living accomodations with separate entrance for each of the parties involved.

Stick it out on your own. Perhaps you could get a roomie or hunker down to a more frugal lifestyle until you can get back on your feet by yourself. Good luck to you.'

Answer 2

Whether or not you are miserable is entirely up to you.
IF...and that is a big if...your parents are willing to allow you the priviledge of moving "home," you will have to make changes in your life.

When grown children are on their own, parents don't know the day to day goings on and therefore worry less about them. Once you are under their roof, they will see how you live your life and may not agree with your choices and begin to question you about them.

You have options. Only one of them is moving back in with your parents. A better option might be to reel in your spending. You likely are spending money on things you really do not need - I don't know you so I can only speculate. Perhaps you have a car payment: eliminate it by paying it off or selling the car and buying something cheap that you need not finance. Cell phone: cut back on minutes and frills. Cable TV/Internet: cut back to the cheapest even if it means dialup for a time. Entertainment: if you are running out of money, you can't afford this... Utilities: be warmer in the summer and cooler in the winter and dress appropriately. Clothing: you likely have all you need for a while; don't buy more. Eating: cooking at home costs less than eating out [unless you do $1 menu]...etc.

It all comes down to which you are willing to sacrifice: freedom or stuff.

Answer 3

At 27?! Nooooo..the older you are, the more miserable you'll be. I'm 24 and I was about to move in with my bf, but we broke up, so I ended up moving back home. It's brutal. Trust me. But I just got a new job and I'm saving money to buy a house on my own, without relying on a bf this time.
My best advice to you is to keep your job (even though you hate it..at least you have one) and try to figure out what it is that you want to do. Don't quit a job without finding another one first!! Especially at 27. You won't save ANY money. Hang in there!

Answer 4

Maybe it's a cultural thing for me (I'm Cuban American, and our family ties across generations are very strong), but I don't see what the big deal is about adults living with their parents, especially if they're single.

It was the same in Japan, where I lived for six years, and where a lot of people stay with their parents until they get married -- sometimes, if they have enough space in the house, they'll even continue to live with their parents after they get married.

So I would consider moving in w/ your parents if I were you -- you may just have to work out some ground rules with them.

I'm currently living with my mother -- I have been living with her since I came back from Japan about 16 months ago. I'm 41 years old; my mother is widowed and has never remarried. But I'm getting married in November, so I'll be moving into my fiancee's place once he becomes my husband.

Answer 5

Living with your parents for a year to save up money is a great idea. I lived with my parents for a year when I was separated from my marriage. But only do it if you are really going to better yourself and save like you've never saved before. I began to get a little spoiled and didn't save as much as I could have and I truly regret spending money that could have been saved.
If you make an agreement with your parents and they are fine with it, I would say go ahead and make the move.

Answer 6

You are 27 take responsibility for your own life. You can think about what to do while you live and work on your own. Why should they support you while you save money? Get a second job if you don't have enough money. In other words act your age and quit trying to bum off your parents.

Answer 7

Nothing wrong with it if you have no other choice but i wouldn't stay a year,six months tops. But stick it out as long as you can,maybe even borrow a few dollars from them if they can spare it. Pay up the rent for a couple of months and keep looking for something better.

Answer 8

im 28 and i ve done it before and im thinking about doing it again. i moved back before for about 6 months and it was cool because for the most part i was never there. i was either over my friends house or out of town visiting other friends. the biggest adjustment is just living under someone else's roof and having to go by ur parents rules again. i had gotten used to doing what i wanted to do and walking around the house naked (lol). i think my pride is keeping me from moving back now...even though my mom actually WANTS me to move back home.

Answer 9

I move out and had to move back and it was horrible, but if you need some you time and you can't afford not to work have you thought of moving away for a bit the going back, moving somewhere slightly cheaper?
Or you could move back with you parents.
Its entirely your decision.
Now i;m moving to Australia for a year, it does mean leaving a job i enjoy and my mum of course but i want my independence back.
My mums great but her hubby aint. Anywho make sure you talk to them if you do decide to move bk in. explain that you are willing to pay rent etc, but you also need your feedom.

Answer 10

First you'd have to be sure your parents want you to come back home...lol....talk to them first, ask them about paying rent or a portion of the utilitie bills, food bills, etc. to help them out. And save as much as you can and get out in a year!!! And Scotty was right...you can't bring women home!!