all the men ive ever been with are sleezy bastards that take everything ive ever had, so why can i never break up with them?
and are there really any good men out there?is it them or me?
2006-08-18 02:11:16 · 21 answers · asked by tweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cause you don't respect yourself?? All the good ones are taken.
2006-08-18 02:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have low self esteem and cant stand up for your feelings Or yourself. and yes there is good men out there, but your too busy around the "sleezy bastards" that you cant find them.. If you looked hard enough you can, and he may not be the tallest, The most popular, the most good looking, But that could be him.. so never underestimate someone before you met them.. cause he could be there right under your nose.
and quit going out with sleezy bastards take it slow, get a nice guy who will treat you right and if you think that being with one of them are amazing, wait till your with a guy that will love you unconditionally and care for you more than anything and would do anything for you. it feels amazing. Just keep lookin! im sure hes out there.
2006-08-18 09:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by ohhemmgeethatshawt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a self esteem issue. You feel that you can't do any better and settle for less. I have a friend that insists that women give off the vibe of "victim" and that men take advantage. There are menpigs out there. But some of the blame is on you as well. Take some time and do some soul searching and go from there. Once you fix you the rest will come naturally.
Remember: you can't change a bad boy and you deserve much better!
Good Luck!
2006-08-18 09:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a healer, you want to help others, men, to be their best, you see their potiential, and want to help them get there, you stay too long because you are co-dependant, meaning that you need to be in a relationship, even if it is not a good one. You will probably always be like this, what u can do is try to find a guy that is ready to get better, and wants to improve his life...not sure where to find him, maybe an AA meeting or someplace like that, don't go looking in bars thats for sure...try not to pick up their negative energy when you are healing them, protect yourself, also know that what you are doing does help, you may not see the changes, but you are doing some good...
2006-08-18 09:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by wizzard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its all about self worth. If feel worthy of a "good man" you will find one. If you find a sleeze who uses u then u should see it right away and end it before he has the chance to lower ur self worth. My advice to u is stop datnig for a while and just watch men in social settings with their friends or girlfriends. Look for differences in the way they look and talk. Eventually, you will be able to pick up a good one and finally get what ur worth. Remeber this, if a guy is a jerk to his friends he will be the same to you!!!
GOOD LUCK!
"a good guy"
2006-08-18 11:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by stewiegrif27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I have experience in this area. It is really hard to leave these type of men because sometimes we get so caught up in needing them in our lives to make us feel whole. There are some good men out there but most of them are taken. Our luck huh?
2006-08-18 09:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a long look in the mirror, obviously these guys see something in you that says screw me then take what i have. once you see what that is that they see, work on changing that, and no all of the good guys aren't gone, you just might not be looking in the right place, ya never know, the right guy might be right under your nose. good luck to you.
2006-08-18 09:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you are able to recognize that men are using you. When you find yourself gravitating toward a man of that nature, remind yourself that you deserve better than that and walk away.
Are there good men out there? Of course, but you have to do a bit of searching...they are out there, though!
2006-08-18 09:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you let them walk all over you thats why. just say no and yes there are good guys out there but you are not going to find them going out with the losers. dont rush into finding a man.they will come to you in time. take your time in finding the a good man and DONT settle for people who treat you like crap!!!!
2006-08-18 09:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u meet a guy u like don't let him know that and try keep him guessing all the time . a good lad will pay for ur meals and nights out and this is a key sign that he really likes u
2006-08-18 09:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by Gerard G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we allow that when we have low self steem and do not really get into our heads that we deserve better, that we are valuable and deserve respect. is liek you have to be tough w/ them and not allow them. they do those things, cause we let them. instead just concentrate on yoursefl and become a better perosn, a better you. educate yourself, spend time w/ ur friends & family. ANd have faith in GOd.
2006-08-18 09:20:37 · answer #11 · answered by A_Latina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋