To shack up or not shack up?

Question

I've been living with my girlfriend for about 1 1/2 years but I wouldn't prefer this to having my own place, financial circumstances. What is your opinion to shack or not to shack?

Answer 1

Statistically speaking, you are less likely to end up in a long term committed relationship.

I'm personally against shacking. Thought about it once, but it doesn't solidify a commitment, and usually one of the two desire just that.

Answer 2

To not shack up. What's the difference of living with each other and THEN getting married?
Imagine you're living with each other one day and then the next day you're married... how are things different? I'd prefer to get married to look forward to the days (the days of the rest of my life) to be with her everyday and night than just going through some ceremony. How does 1.5 years not turn into 2 or 2.5 or 3+?

Answer 3

it truly is stupid, because it strips the which ability from the call. A radio shack became what the communications middle became talked about as, in protection rigidity operations. This is going back a lengthy time period, to the position each and every little thing became radio. only calling it "the shack" might want to be something.

Answer 4

Shacking up has it's advantages and disadvantages.
financial reward -v- emotional sadness.
Yes, we all need/want more money for various reasons, but sometimes we have to do the best we can with what we have, living by ourselves and still have a great relationship with our boy/girlfriend, which makes us happy.

Answer 5

To shack!! It is so financially hard to have a place of your own. My now husband and I lived together for almost 5 years before we got married. You are eventually going to have to think about getting married, you can't just live together forever!!

Answer 6

I was married for 3yrs, and was divorced, my grandmother who was a strict catholic had begged me to only live with him first....she must have known I would end up divorcing him. I have been with my current bf for almost 8yrs, and we have lived together the entire time. I am very happy with where we are, even though some may look down upon it because I have my two boys from my marriage to their father. The only thing that keeps us from being married is a piece of paper. MY mom lived with her now hubby for 5 yrs before she finally married him. They will be married 18 yrs this year.

Check your states common law marriage laws also. In my state, because we have been together for so long, if we were to split, and it got nasty, he is entitled to half, no matter if it was his to begin with or not. But, I have a great attorney who will not allow those little redneck laws effect me.

Answer 7

Not to shack up. Go for the glory and get your own place you can call yours.

Answer 8

shack up and stack some secret money on the side just to be safe. you never know when the real her is going to come out and you may need to pack up and split quick. the devil wears prada but the devil also wears a pretty face.

Answer 9

obviously you dont want to be shacked up with her and arent ready. im sure you can find another way to live on your own or with a male friend. why be living with someone if you arent ready for that????

Answer 10

My only experience of that was moving in with a gf...gradually I paid for everything, willingly, but she became so demanding and used her place as leverage that her demands become so one sided and it was do it or move out..so I moved out...of course she wanted me back sooner than later but never again...I'll have someone stay with me then move in under those circumstance again.