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My BF of 7 years (who I live[d] with) hasn't spoken to me since Sunday afternoon. On Sunday he invited his sister (we don't like each other) to my parents' house for a BBQ, which ended in a blow-out when she was told by my brother to stop drinking (she's underage) after she had helped herself to alcohol. She and her BF left the BBQ pissed off - and that was the last time my BF spoke to me.

I had reminded my BF of the house rules (my parents were out of town, but the rules still apply) and left him responsible to inform for HIS sister who HE invited. He never told her the house rules and he wasn't the one who told her to stop drinking, my brother did.

How can he be THIS angry when I wasn't the one who DID anything? What does the silent treatment really mean? We've been together 7 years, how could this stupid incident have made him angry enough to stop talking to me? How do I get him to start talking to me again? Help!?!

2006-08-18 02:03:34 · 5 answers · asked by Trishy 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

I've been taking care of my parents dogs while they are away and had been going home every night - to silence. On Tuesday night I went home and told him that this was BS - if he was angry at me, then just yell at me and get it over with! He continued to ignore me - so I told him I'd be staying at my parents' house and he knew how to reach me...

I've given him permission to just yell at me... this silence thing is driving me crazy. I don't know what he is thinking and so long as he is silent, my life is in limbo (Unable to change the past and unsure of the future). I've left him alone for 3 days - but was thinking of going down there to try and get him to talk to me again tonight. Should I?

2006-08-18 02:23:07 · update #1

5 answers

Very cute slippers!

He's angry with you because he's angry at your brother and you by association. He believes that you support your brother's actions (which you do) but he thinks that what your brother did was very wrong.

If his sister doesn't like you (which isn't unusual especially if she's young) then that makes things worse because she's probably telling him that you are somehow the reason for all that. The only way I can see of getting him to start talking to you is to apologize for what happened. But you aren't sorry, and he thinks that there was definitely reason for him to get angry. He won't apologize because he sees this incident as more important than you. That's really sad, but its true.

It is even possible that he views what has happened as a breakup so that is why he hasn't tried to call you. you should probably call him and try to get things sorted out.

I hope things go well.

2006-08-18 02:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 0 0

It's what considerate guys do when we're extremely angry. Instead of just hollering at you we choose to take our own time out. This lets us cool down and then approach you as to why we were angry in the first place.

It's actually a good thing, it means we have respect for you, but we're just not extremely happy with you at that point in time.

2006-08-18 09:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Men are cry babies and always want their way....just give him some time to cool off. He'll come around. And when he does, tell him you aren't a preschool teacher and if he wants to be treated like a 4 year old then go somewhere else. If you don't nip this in the bud now it will always be this way

2006-08-18 09:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0 0

dont even waste your time trying to get him to talk to you. he will talk to you when hes ready. personally i think if you been together for 7 years and hes acting this way then there are other things bothering him in this relationship then just this inncident.

2006-08-18 09:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0 0

keep on telling him that communication is a factor for keeping any relationship going. he will talk to you soon.

2006-08-18 09:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0 0

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