how am i gonna say i love her 'coz she's having a relationship??...and i'm afraid of rejections..?

Question

and i can't even sleep at night thinkin' 'bout her and my situation. i think that i really fell in love with her and i dont think i can do it on my own.could please someone respond with my problem?..right now i feel that im nothing,im stupid,and i felt so bad for my self. i really like that girl and i dont think i can survive a day knowing that shes on someonelse's arms.i cant even imagine her with other guys.i cant accept those.maybe you think that im selfish but i dont know what to do with this.maybe somehow you can understand my feelings, specially to those guys who have a same situation like me. and one more thing not being to confident with my self but im not ugly, someone says that im cute,just kidding, i just wanna make you laugh. so thats it!. im hoping that you could help me. thanks for reading this

Answer 1

Dude, I guess in a way this has happend to most of us, so don't hit yourself so badly. It's hard because you want to be with her but you don't want to hear the words "I'm sorry, I love someone else", then from there on she avoids you because she knows how you feel. Weird, should be the other way 'cuz she knows you love her and you'll never hurt her but protect her. But love is so much complicated than that.

If you really like her that much you have to work this even harder. You can't just sit back, suffer and forget about it. Of course, I've felt that way with a couple of girls then realized later on it was better to let go because I found someone BETTER! Sometimes girls forget there are 7 woman per each man, 6 are bound to stay out of a long relationship... for ever. Which is why most girls who know fall in love with the first jerk that drops dead on her feet.

Another thing: it's proven that at least 60% of woman weren't physically attracted to their now husbands when they met. They fell in love of their personality, their kindness and their charm. The physical part is something that they look at only when they are teens or inmature. When they mature they realize good looks isn't everything. That is when you get in.

What you're gonna do? You are going to prove her, before you even dare to tell her anything about your feelings, that YOU are a real man inside. Forget how you look. Once she notices how DIFFERENT you are from that other guys who maybe want to just take advantage of her, she will make a choice.

Of course, we cannot deny your feelings, but he who is patient gets what he wants (most of the time). Anyway, if you really love her as you say, you have to work this intelligently. Be yourself, don't do inmature stupid stuff to impress her because it'll go the other way. Try to avoid the guy, it's better if he doesn't even know you exist. You don't want to get into a tug of war because you will lose.

Once you know she has noticed you enough and that you are sure she KNOWS you are different from the other guys, wait until they brake up or have a discussion or something is not right in their relationship. This is when she is more eager to hear other propositions. If she is too happy with him, hold it. It'll backfire.

The BIG ONE. When the moment arrives, it is very important you know HOW and WHERE you say it. Don't just go over there and tell her "I have feelings for you". Oh comn' kid grow up! If she's your friend (which you didn't specify) just invite her to eat in a nice restaurant (hey dude you want her or not?). But if she's not your friend (which if you were patient enough you would at least tried to get there) then just talk to her in a moment you KNOW mr. dopy is not around and that her friends won't interrupt you. Then in one swift stroke tell her that you "admire her beauty and that you wish you could have a chance to prove her what love is really all about". What? that it sounds corky? No no my good man, this is what girls really like (I mean nice girls. If she's one of those mean Gothic Nu-Metal types just grab her by the neck and kiss her - joking).

I mean, what is the worst that can happen? That she tells you "NO WAY!"? Dude you are going to lose her anyway if you don't move. So if that happens, just face it like a man, heads up and keep walking. Remember there are 6 more girls your way.

If you don't tell her how you feel. You will regret it the rest of your life.

I hope I have somehow illuminated your ways. Remember, life is not about girls or rejections, its about you. Don't crack with a little pressure, hold it in and keep walking.

Answer 2

I've been there had the same thing happen. But while she's involved with someone, I've kept my feelings for her secret no matter what the cost. It hurt a lot. My rationale was if you truly cared about her, then whatever made her happy should make you happy and if this guy makes her happy then that's great. Be her friend, this relationship may not last. I wish you luck.

As for self esteem, you may want to talk to someone you trust in your area. A friend about this. They will probably know more as to how long this relationship will last and about all the people involved. Don't feel bad or stupid. This thing happens a lot. Once again, I hope you have a sucessful resolution to this problem.

Answer 3

if she is with someone else. be the upstanding guy and keep away. do not ruin this relationship you will mess up everyone involved: you heart, her head, and the other guys relationship.every time i see this it plays out BAD, not like that "save the day" crap you see in the movies. if she is meant to be with you that other guy doesn't stand a chance for long. but i am willing to bet...don't take this the wrong way...that she doesn't belong to you. you seem really sweet but it seems unfortunate that you have given your heart to someone who may not want you the same way. your heart and love is too precious to give away to someone who will not return the favor just as strong as you are willing. i bet you are handsome, and smart, and generous as worth very much to some young lady who will absolutely adore you in every way, but until YOU know it, not many other people will believe.not arrogance but being sure you are worth every second of the same attention you are giving to her and deserve nothing less. it may hurt for a while and be hard to deal with but she may not be the one for you. meanwhile there is some truly wonderful girl out there wanting some truly wonderful guy like you and she is going crazy because she can't seem to find find you. you are missing out on her because you are chasing someone who wants someone else. if she really is for you (the girl you love) she will not stay with the other guy. talk to her and see how she feels about the other guy if you can, don't tell her you love her, it'll hurt if she doesn't respond like you want. but deal with whatever she tells you and wait. it will get better with time either way...

Answer 4

Think about how she would feel if you invested alot of time in a relationship with her and you never told her you loved her? Love is about taking risks. How can you ever know what love is without saying "I love you". Love isn't about what you get in return. You can love someone and they not feel the same way. Your love doesn't change because someone else doesn't say it too. I think love is worth it and expressing it is the best thing you can do for someone you care about and really do love.

Answer 5

In order to love someoneelse u must love yourself first.... and it seems to me that u dont// hey tell her how u feel and get it out of u keeping all those feelings to yourself is not healthy so be honest and u'll never know what could happen.. but whatever happens.. just remember that u are a very important person. and that by feeling bad ur not gping to work things out

Answer 6

Hey, brother u are in hell lot of problems & i'm in the same situation too dude but the thing is, never lose hope and try to be patient. why don't you be brave and go ahead. tell her how you feel man,thats your feelings.

Answer 7

living in denial again hon? If you are so scared of rejection, you are not ready for a relationship, a life or even masturbation. Dealing with rejection is what makes us better, makes us stronger, it makes us realise who we really are.

Answer 8

You are in love with a girl who is already in a relationship with somebody.it means that she has found the one with whom she may probably share her life with.If you truely love her,then please let her be happy with her special someone.if you love her, you should be happy if she is happy.Love is nothin but sacrifice.

Answer 9

Take your time in saying it coz if your in a hury she mite reject it .

Answer 10

Never be afraid of rejection..... If you don't try, you would never succeed !!! What do you have to lose?!!!!!!!