I am living with my boyfriend and I believe that I should move back to my place. I haven't found the strength

Question

I have moved all of my things back to my place, but I am still staying the night with him. I enjoy being with him so much, but I don't feel right about living with him. I feel anxious much of the time and have a sense of guilt. He tells me that he loves me and wants to marry me. How can I find peace in this situation?

Answer 1

the only way a relationship can work out is if you're honest with each other and are able to communicate openly. there's nothing wrong with the way you feel, you may simply need more time. if you explain him and he tried to understand and support you (though he still can be upset and you need to try to understand that too) then you'll know he truly loves you, but if he gets mad and starts to blame you then it's just a red flag for you and 1 of the signs that he's more concerned about himself than your feelings. after all it's a mistake to live (and marry) somebody if you're not sure or if it doesn't feel right. and we always pay for our mistakes sooner or later.

Answer 2

I guess it is all a preference. I understand that you have guilt because a lot of people don't believe that one should live withe their partner until marriage. But don't worry about other people what do you feel about it? I moved in with my boyfriend after dating for 6 months and now we have been together for 4 years and hopefully getting married soon. I just know some people that had been together for a long time, but not lived with one another. Now that they are married and living together....they are in the process of a divorce. When you live with someone you get to see all their quirks. I think that there are a lot of things about people that you want to find out before you know if they are marriage material....you find these things out by living with one another and being with them all the time. But you do what you want. If you feel more comfortable moving out and waiting until you get married. Then don't let anyone try to change your mind. Do what you think is best for you.

Answer 3

Time and distance either make a relationship or break it. I am out on my own after four years with someone that I loved very much...we are talking now and the friendship part of the relationship that slowly died is trying to come back. I have moved on to a new "significant other" but, cherish the thought of being able to shoot pool or go biking with a very dear friend. So, if you have doubt - step back and relax. It does not say how old you are but you sound younger to me and if something does not feel right then it probably is not (maybe at this point in your life).

Answer 4

Explain the being together 24/7 is dulling the newness of the relationship or just dulling the relationship in general. That having some time apart would be benefical for both of your; some time to reflect on things yourself and just do your own thing. This doesnt even have to entail going partying with others. Just you want to stay at home some and stay with him some. The time apart will back the time that you are together better as you will desire each other more.

Answer 5

If u feel u need to marry him to feel comfortable living with him in a sense of respect for your religion and not living in sin then I can see where you would want to be married. The bigger question is if he already wants to marry u then why did u move all of your things out? Seems to me that u need time away from him and really look inward to see if u really want to be with this man.

Good luck in the future

Answer 6

Not sure how long y'all have dated or how old you are... not sure what else you might have going on or yet to be completed (i.e. school) but if you don't think he's the one or not the one right now... you should move out. If you have nothing holding y'all back except that he hasn't asked you to marry him yet, you need to figure out why or maybe it's a good thing to not live with him anymore so he gets the hint that you need/want to be married to him and you do not want a continuous just "live-in" situation going. If you have school to complete or you don't think you've known each other long enough or maybe y'all are struggling financially, y'all need a plan and you NEED to TALK!

Answer 7

here's the thing if he cant be with out you he will come and stay the night at your place and if he really wants to marry you has he asked you ?if he hasn't he will get away with what you allow including living situation i have been waiting for my man to pop the question for 25 years at this point if he ask i don't know that i would say yes i have been living with him that long anyway hope the school of hard knocks helps and good luck to you i wish you enough strength to do what you have to

Answer 8

Can you recollect the puzzles of your
Memories of me,
Hidden beneath the reinforced dust of time
And remember our love?
And when you do,
You will find my face
Again...
Bite your lips,
Oh, yes
Once more...
Dream my exposed skin
Up on the cold mirrors of your mind
And close your eyes...
Sink into your steaming ecstasy
To bathe yourself
Again
In my sweet narcosis
Once more,
I am a joy,
That is belonging to you
Do not be ashamed to feel my imprint
Resonate
Deeply, within your chromosomes
Again...
Let my burning ricochet
Dash through your precious body parts
To create a tsunami of lust
Fallow the waves with your hand...
Oh, yes...
Once more,
I am your pulsar upon the gunmetal sky
Just as I was before
When I showered your heart with
Eternal syllables
On the hill where the moon-lighted trees
Danced to tranquilize our weary souls...
Do you remember our nuptials?
As the leisurely wind slowly moaned my growl
Into your ears, moved through your golden hair
Than swirled around your breasts
Endlessly...
Your naked shadow weightlessly fallen upon my
Throbbing body and
From the radiating dusk
Your beauty appeared,
Dissolving the scarlet moon,
Pouring it into my veins
And I howled
Into the eyes of the midnight
Take me all
Our body madly writhed
To the rhythm of life's incantation
Your hungered lips weaved themselves
Into my breathless mouth
Kiss me
Again...
Bite me harder,
Oh, yes...
Once more...
And as the violet haze granted us
The blind intimacy
Diamond shaped sweats were born
By the millions, soaked our surface
To ease the fearless friction
As we met and become one at
Ground zero...
We were two body sharing
One mind
One wish
One destiny
One heart
But the rays of the bright Sun,
Grim announcer of dawn
Awakened from the east
I turned my head
Closed my eyes
And you slipped away
Disappeared with the haze
Just as my teardrops as they fell
Into my own Anti-star
That you left behind...

Answer 9

First you need to sort out your feelings.Talk to him and tell him how you feel.Maybe take a week away from him and see how you feel when you are not together..If you find you cant stand to be away from him then you need to set a wedding date.You may just be feeling guilty living with him out of marriage.He loves you so he will understand.Good luck to you both.

Answer 10

I reckon you have to be true to yourself. Moving your stuff back to your house is fine. Dont become a person that continually goes backwards and forwards, spend some time on yourself. If he loves you enough to want to marry you he should be accepting of your choices and reasons for them. Just my opinion.
Good luck