I split up from a long term relationship about 4 weeks ago, and met this guy who goes to the same gym as me. I saw him in town we got chatting, i ended up sleeping with him. But after that he wouldn't leave me alone he was cooking for me, texting me saying he missed me, ringing me, inviting me round to his house all the time, he kept telling me how beautiful i was.
I invited him 2 this party and he said he would go then he let me down an hour before. So i went on my own the next day he didnt his phone until 10pm then he came 2 see me sayin he was sorry.
I then saw him the next night n he was a bit distant. So i dint ring him the nxt day until late to gi him some space.
The day after i rang him and he said he needed to talk. So i went round to see him and he said he wasn't ready for all of this and he didnt want to see me.
My friends had warned that he's bad news, but now i feel attached to him. Has he been playing me?
I dont understand how he could change so easily!
2006-08-18 01:45:03 · 35 answers · asked by Stace 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hunnie, you just got played. You need to watch out && dont sleep with them right away.. Wait till youv been going out for awhile and make sure hes not using you. You can do way better than someone like that, just make sure you know 100% that this next boy wont use you and will stay with you. Dont have sex till you Love him, Its alot better that way.
2006-08-18 01:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by ohhemmgeethatshawt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you were up for it and looking for some tlc having lost your man. Have you thought that it was perhaps you that didnt please him? If you look so beautiful the man thinks that you are going to be good in bed (a complete fallasy!) Perhaps he dint find you sexually attractive enough to try again.
I am not condoning his actions but most men (me excluded) look at a beautiful woman, or a great pair of legs, or nice boobs, and naturally assume she will be great in bed. My thoughts are that this is a man thing and an ugly woman with bad legs would probably give you a better time in bed. Keep trying and just make sure you dont get hurt - try the 90 minute method next time - 30 minutes of kissing, cuddling and foreplay, 30 minutes of pure unadulterated sex and 30 minutes of more kissing, cuddling and calming down - it works for me.
I wish you all the luck in the World because you sound like a great girl
2006-08-18 02:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Matchplay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons why he changed like this and if people would just explain their reasoning when they break up with someone, it would be alot easier. Sometimes it's more difficult because you don't understand why then the actual breakup itself.
Perhaps he had a need at the time and you fulfilled that need and now, he doesn't need you anymore.
Perhaps he found somebody else.
Perhaps he felt the relationship was one sided and didn't feel you felt the same way.
Perhaps he was falling in love and it just scared him.
I would stop trying to figure out "why" as you could drive yourself crazy. You should move on and chalk this up as experience and next time, don't jump into bed to soon. You'll have one less thing to regret.
Good Luck.
2006-08-18 01:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK men are like this. They say they want one thing, then decide they want another. Essentially, you have two choices
1) Follow up your 'attachment' by sending him more texts, calling him etc. If you catch him at a good time (when he's drunk works for me) he'll probably invite you round, have his way with you again, then ignore you in the morning.
2) Forget him. He is not worth your time, effort or 'attachment'. Don't regret what has happened (I imagine it has distracted you from your recent break up plus has reminded you that other people aside from your ex find you sexually attractive) but look to the future. You will find a guy worthy of you at some point, and in the meantime you can play them like this guy has played you.
Don't mean to sound harsh but from experience this is really what's going to happen here. Trust me.
2006-08-18 01:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it like this. At first you felt like he was too much in your face and now he doesn't want to be bothered with you. Be careful what you ask for, because it can be answered in mysterious ways. It was too early for you to kick it with someone else anyway, casual or serious. One of two things with him. First, he could be caught up with other loose ends that he needs to tie up before he really pursues you. Second, he may have really liked you and he got scared of his own emotions so he backed off, especially if he was reading your actions a lot. There's no need to feel attached to him, just because he was trying to spend time with you and then the one time he didn't come thru for you, youu pushed him off. I wouldn't worry about it too much it's just a part of that game we call the single life. When you see him say hello, but don't ask questions just keep it short and simple.
2006-08-18 01:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by ksfinney17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but words are easy to say.
You can be told that you're a queen of the world, and be dumped in a week after you've slept with him.
He obviously met someone else, and are not interested in you any more.
Move on, find another decent guy, and be sure not to sleep with him till you two are in an official relationship!!
2006-08-18 02:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im afraid the others are right, he is a user and there is alot out there. you must remember that its not you, its him that has the problem. he obviously cant take abit of commitment. But on the bright side, theres alot of men out there that aint like that. So dont give up, just put this one down to a bad experience. Hey we have all been there x
2006-08-18 01:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lifes*Peachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to tell what was in his head. Maybe he really liked you or maybe he was seeing other people and found someone “better’. (in his eyes) I wouldn’t think too much about it. Just move on and try to avoid guys that seem needy. If you just left a relationship you need to take some time for YOU and not worry too much about dating. Try to Have Fun!
2006-08-18 01:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by zerospacegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did not alternate in any respect by any stretch of the creativeness. Is it not genuine that you anticipated (with none foundation) behavior from him that you just desired from him? Did you receive his phrases with out reservation and without taking time to peer that his movements gave the same message as his words? It's a jungle out there and phrases and moves most often do not in shape.
2016-08-09 11:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by muzzillo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋