My sibling is insane?

Question

I am not sure what to do. My 8-year-old sister is absolutely insane and the most difficult child that ever existed that doesn't qualify to go under mediciation for you know... being crazy. Her difficulties basically started as young as when she was three, in grade 1 she was supended like 10 times from school, the doctor says she -might- get better, but she seems to just get worse. I think though, that she's not just crazy, but really spoiled too. She throws horrible tantrums and we live in an apt. building, our neighbours have knocked on our doors and walls, and quite frankly I am embarrassed to go out. She just doesn't seem to care or understand. Sometimes I can't help but wish her voicebox would somehow disappear and she'd stop hitting and being so abusive and disgusting...

My mom thinks she is dealing with it, but I don't think she is. She tries to be calm with her and plead her to do whatever she is supposed to be doing instead of screaming, but seeing that we are afraid of her screams she just screams more, and then after a while my mom gets angry and then she definitely wcant deal with her. I tell her to be more stern with her because this way you'll teach her that her behaviour is not acceptable, but she pretty much tells me to shut-up. Well, I am leacing soon anyways, but I think that someone is going to die of a heart attack here and I am not sure I really want that (as it will most likely be my mom and I sure can't deal with the little devil).

Answer 1

Hmmm.... sounds like my son at that age. ADHD? Learning diffulculties? Possible abuse? (not accusing here)..... Try to be her best friend no matter how difficult, show her you love her, and try positive reinforcement. From a person who's been there, it works.

Answer 2

It sounds like you have a rough deal here. The only grown-up is you. Your sister may have ADD or HAD. Or known as Attention deficit disorder and Hyper Attention Deficit Disorder. She needs help because this behavior is not accepted in society. Will she get a job with this behavior, go to a good college? We both know the answer. Your mother needs to see this. While you can help at certain levels you are not the primary care giver nor the authority. Without your mother changing her view on the situation little can be done. The best course would be to hold your sanity, like you are doing, and get out of that environment as fast as possible. Good luck.

Answer 3

Recommend to your mom that she watch that nanny TV show.
Seriously. The show is about the professional nannies that show up to deal with problem kids.

It seems that kids act up when they do not have boundries set and enforced, and when parents don't know how to read the signs of what the child needs. Your sister may simply be needing something that she is not getting.

This is a great life lesson for you.
The ability to 'have' a child does not necessitate the ability to 'raise' a child. Too often parents seem to want to raise a child on instinct, rather than researching child rearing and getting professional help when needed.

As far as what you can do, just be part of your sisters life when she is behaving well. Ask her about her feelings and then listen.
Perhaps something will be revealed.

Answer 4

You have the right idea. She is spoiled, coupled with the fact that your mother tries to plead with her is most probably the source of her tantrums. Your mother should be stern, and should punish the child. Once the child knows there a re boundries and consequances for crossing those boundries then you'll see an enntirely different child.

Answer 5

The 11 y/o boy next door is like that. He has been kicked out of school so many times I can't even count. He has choked and stabbed other kids with pencils. He throws the loudest tantrums when he doesn't get his way. He's mainly spoiled, because he's the only child, only grand child and only nephew. All his aunts, him mom and his grandma spoiled him rotten, and now they can't do anything with him.

They took him to a pediatrician and is now on some kind of med. He's been on Adderall and Concerta that I know of. Talk your mom into getting her on something. With her behavior, I'm sure she needs something.

Answer 6

You poor thing. You sister sounds like a horrible brat. I don't think that there is anything you can do if your mother does not get her treatment. It sounds as if she needs to be in some type of therapy.

I bet you can't have any friends over because of your sister, can you? Just keep being your sweet self and try to avoid your sister.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

121 that is what seems she is craving
everyone is to quick to put kids on medication my son has ADHD and has not been put on medication because
that's is a easy way out space a kid out and get some time to ya self it is a cop out
you have to deal with these things yes get help but i don't believe in medication for adhd at all
respect
shaz

Answer 8

Hmmmm... I know how it feels to have a bratty sibling (I have one too and he practically embarasses me at any chance he gets) THey might be just trying ti get attention from others since she feels insecure. Try paying attention to her and smile at her once in awile. When you're out in public be proud that she's your sis. Maybe she'll eventually change though this takes time. It's worth waiting if she'll improve. My brother improved when we payed more attention to him. She's 8 right! Kids love attention.

Answer 9

tape a recording of the little devil, make a copy of it, and replay the copy for your sister. tell her if she ever pulls this crap again, you will replay it for the local mental health athorities, to make sure she is locked up for insanity. if this dosn't work, she may be insane.

Answer 10

take your sister to a psychiatrist