I used to try to be fair and take turns paying when i was dating my ex (not exactly back and forth but if he payed a couple of times then i would make sure i payed next...i tried to make it as even as possible) but eventually it turned into an issue when sometimes i didnt have money. he never said anything but he sometimes acted annoyed or sometimes we would go somewhere and he would flat out ask me to pay.
i know for a fact that with his past girlfriends he payed for everything and it wasnt an issue at all. this isnt the reason we broke up, but i was just wondering what you think his problem was? and a second question...how often do you guys expect a girl or your gf to pay?
2006-08-18
01:41:41
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see that exactly what i thought volchick...whoever asks, pays....but he would ask me out and then ask if i was paying
2006-08-18
01:48:15 ·
update #1
at first he would pay but as the relationship went further it was more 50/50...which was what i wanted.... then towards the end he would spend all of his money treating his buddies to beer/dinner and then didnt have any for us to go out.
2006-08-18
01:55:59 ·
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You have to be the greatest woman in the world(next to my mother) for wanting to pay on a date.A person that has been asked out should never have to pay unless it has been agreed upon first(before going out).Don't let his past affect the way you are now.I think your being more than fair.if you two are still going out make sure in advance who's buying before going out.That doesn't make you cheap,you just don't want to be embarrass in public.And for the last question : I never expect a woman to pay for anything if i ask her out,but it's nice to know that you would sometimes. Also i think you should always try to split the bill so he won't get the ideal in his head that he's owed something in return(you know what i mean).
2006-08-18 01:59:15
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answered by master_der_man 6
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I think that.....not to be rude or anything.....but he was probably using you for your money. and the reason i say this is because if it became an issue with you but it wasn't an issue with any of his ex's and he payed for everything with them then why would he trip with you? that's why i think it ended. cause he was trying to use you. and i think that a guy should always pay for the first date and then the girl can pay and they take even turns cause a relationship is suppose to be 50/50 right? but i know some guys that refuse to let a girl pay for anything.
2006-08-18 01:50:08
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answered by stressed&depressed 3
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Bottom line is if you ask the person out on the date, I think its up to you to pay. That goes for the girl too!
Down the line if you become an item and are in a committed relationship, I think its fair to split the bill or have the girl pay sometimes.
2006-08-18 01:46:41
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answered by volchick2003 3
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whoever asks- pays , yes but when a couple has been goin out for a while it has to be dutch! unless theres some kind of deal where the girl is always buying him gifts or something. why should the male always pay in an ongoing relationship? both people are equals in that kind of relationship ad should act as such.
2006-08-18 01:55:15
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answered by bboyinhisbboystance 2
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I always pay the check on any of my dates... The only way I would let my date pay for the check is that she offers before the date.
I feel that if your EX loved you he wouldn't mind spending a little to make you happy.
I don't expect my G/F to pay for anything while on a date.
2006-08-18 01:51:38
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answered by James Dean 1
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In the beginning, I feel its the gentlemen thing to do is when you invite a girl on a first date that you pay for the first encounter as a means of showing her your not stingy and as good first impression.
After that, I feel the female can then return the favor to show she is considerate of her potential mate pocket.
Once that is done, I feel either can pay as long as it is not placed on the burden of one person or another to pay for everything without having consideration of the financial means of the other person.
Once you fall in love with a person and I say truly fall in love, it will come naturally paying for
dates without anyone taking a kindness for a weakness.
2006-08-18 01:51:33
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answered by words from the heart 3
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In my opinion the guy should pay for the dates no matter who asked who out. the only exception is if the price is too high for one person then the girl can help out. As for your ex asking you to pay sometines maybe he got used to the idea of you paying.
2006-08-18 01:52:53
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answered by Black Like A Tar 4
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it is social courtesty to pay the bill if you invite or at least pay half if you suggest an expensive place.
when dating, i've always made sure i had money to pay my way. i would offer to pay and 9 out of 10 the guy would tell me to put my money away. this way you don't seem like a free loader and more independant. guys don't appreciate being the ATM at every date.
2006-08-18 01:58:23
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answered by Storm 3
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with my ex i paid for everything!!!!!!! but now if I'm on a date i usually like to split ,if i like the guy and there may be a second date and he insists on paying for the first i will get the second.if i know i don't want to see him again i will pay for the first,it doesn't seem fair to make him pay and then blow him off!
2006-08-18 01:50:59
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answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6
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When i was dating my fiancee, he never moaned about me not paying, but he moaned about his ex. He said that he payed and felt he got nothing back, that she used him.
He wasn't after sex or anything but she was just stingy and had more money than he did. She was selfish. I think guys don't mind so long as they feel the date is gratefull and is actually interested.
2006-08-18 01:49:29
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answered by Anonymous
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