i started working this summer and when school started mon the 14th, i realized that i couldn't handle school, my extra curriculars and work so i gave them my two week notice. my father wanted me to quit Debate bc it took up too much of my time. when i told him i was thinking about joining FCCLA he thought it was a good idea. he is now telling me that i must work and to find a way around my schedule. Is that legal?
2006-08-18 01:38:59 · 26 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Does he house you, feed you, clothe you, take you everywhere (or give a car?)
Very legal. Congrats on the great choices in Extra curriculars but if you want money....earn it. It's not their job to give you spending money or nice clothes. Be grateful for the lesson he's trying to teach you....you can handle it all if you wanted too.
I'm a mother of 2, military wife, full time college student, board member of two PTA's, volunteer two days a week at the kids schools and I still find time to clean house, cook dinner, do laundry, mow the lawn, help with homework, make dr. appointments and even get my own homeowrk done....all while maintaining a 4.0 GPA myself. LIfe isn't easy....Daddy is trying to teach you this!
2006-08-18 04:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Amy B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your dad sounds like a really crappy parent. School should be your top priority, including any extra curriculars you would like to be involved with.
But even if you wern't in school NOBODY can make you work. You're not a slave and nobody can own you and tell you you MUST work. So quit your job if you want to. If things get really bad between you and your dad are there any other family members you could move in with?
Thats gotta be a rough situation. I wish you the best of luck with it. Remember: High school is only 4 years. It'll be over soon.
2006-08-18 08:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, it's legal but perhaps not very far-sighted of your father. You are supposed to be learning. There is some education from working too. It's probably that debate can be picked up later. What I'm more concerned about is that you and your father don't agree on your plan for education. Is it possible to talk and find mutual accommodation?
2006-08-18 09:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are only 14. you are doing the right thing as focusing on your education. sadly to say your father is thinking of the money coming into the house. perhaps he feels that he is struggling to provide for you and by you working some expenses can be taken care of by you. talk to your father and explain to him that you really want to focus on your education so you can get a better job when you are older and that maybe you can cut out some of your wants and only get things you need. legally your parents are responsible for you until you reach the age 18 in most states so do not feel you have to work. good luck and remember education is the key.
2006-08-25 18:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by missyazzy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one can make anybody go to work, regardless of age or relationship. While he can't make you go to work, he can certainly make you wish you had if you're not careful.
I'd at least hope your Dad has your best interest in mind. Did he explain his change in attitude (part time job versus FCCLA)? Talk to him and try to understand one another better; maybe you can reach a mutually agreeable compromise.
2006-08-18 09:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by nyboxers73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you need to work? do you have bills that you wanted to make, like getting a car or cell phone that they can't or won't pay for. i wanted a car at 16 so i had to get a job...if thats not the case then maybe they just want you to learn some responsability. try talking to your parents and ask why they want you to work, instead of doing the extras at school. let them know how important these activities are for you.
2006-08-24 10:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by fin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of my children were expected to pay for their car insurance, but here was the deal, during the summer they worked enough to pay their insurance, more if they wanted to and usually did, but during the school year, when my son played football, then I paid his insurance, his job was to keep up his grades and go to practice, same with my daughters and their sports, but in the off season they were expected to work one night a week to pay the insurance. It was my way of teaching them responsibility yet allowing them time for school and activities. my son is now out of the house and on his own and has yet to need assistance from us as are our 5 older children. This seemed to work for us.
2006-08-24 00:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your dad doesn't have a say in it really. it's your life he can't make you work. if your still in high school that should be number one in your life school. and to finish so don't worry just go through with your two week notice and then quit that's all that you can do.
2006-08-23 11:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by val 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is that the kind of relationship you have with your dad? He tells you what he thinks and you feel "forced" and go ask other people what they think?
Why aren't you talking to your Dad ... calmly and with reason. There's no reason you shouldn't be able to meet in the middle on this discussion.
Besides, it sounds to me like you've left out a few relevant details. What would your father's question be, I wonder????
The short answer to your question is ... yes.
2006-08-25 15:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Myrna B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I notice you're a level 2. Seems you have plenty of time for Yahoo answers.
If you're father tells you to get a job, then you need to go get a job. I thought my parents were not only dumb but mean until I became one then learned that the things they made me do actually had a purpose.
2006-08-18 08:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by Big Ed 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋