we are having financial problems among other things, and im getting furstrated. i went to an old friend of my for support you know to vent and give me some advice about what to do, we ended up kissing he and i use to be intimate ways back when did i kiss him because i was upset or do you think there is something there. im affraid to talk to him again because i dont want that to happen anymore.
2006-08-18 01:24:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He caught you with your guard down and was lucky enough to get a kiss(if not more). I'm sure you have a female friend that you can talk to about your problems.If you have no one else to talk with at lease do it by phone.If your having problems this one your about to start will surely be the straw that breaks the camel's back.Stay focus on the problem at hand,and good luck to you.
2006-08-18 01:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were in a vulnerable situation, talking about all of your issues with a close friend and this little moment of indescresion helped you escape. Maybe you wanted to feel something other than the stressful stuff you where talking about.
The high-road would be to clear the air with your friend, in that you may have gone too far and it can not happen again (well, while you're with someone anyway).
Second would be to fess up to your partner. He could either find out from you, or he could find out on his own. Communicating this is a delicate procedure but should be done, for both of you to move on.
The low-road would be to hide from your friend while having fun dealing with the guilt of your indescresion, and keeping it from your partner.
2006-08-18 08:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say we, do you mean your spouse? If what you are saying is that you have money problems and cheated with an old friend to solve that problem, then you should be ashamed of yourself. NOTHING in this world should come over love, not even money. If you really love someone, you stick together though thick and thin, regarless of the money issues, and if you cheated, you need to stop this instant, and try to work things out. Now, if youre alone and meet this old friend, and have a crush on him, I suggest you dont rush the newfound relationship. Give it time to grow...in other words, dont let him draw you in for sexual contact, make him wait....I hope that helps you, and I hope you did not cheat....
2006-08-18 08:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by SexyChina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you and your "friend" First of all you were intimate with that friend and you would go to him to vent about the man you are with now? That really does not sound to good... I would stay away from him as you are putting your relationship in a bind. Also financial problems seem to be all across the world right now. Relax... it will work out.
2006-08-18 08:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard it said that people cheat because the other person doesn't have to deal with any homelife problems and it makes them seem nicer. Nip it in the bud and stop it now. Go to a financial adviser and have him help you out with your bills. Or go on the Oprah Dept Diet. It helped me.
2006-08-18 08:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time you sit down and talk to your partner about the stress you are under with the financial situation. Find a plan that will suit both of you to get out of it.
2006-08-18 08:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by William L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UR GOAL IS TO TRY TO HAVE A CLEAR MIND!!!Feel well balanced again and when u r on ur 2 feet see if ur feelings r stronger 4 ur previous guy or not!
COMPARE THE TWO!!!!!!! SEE WHAT U LOVE IN ONE N' WHAT IN THE OTHER!! WHEN U KNOW THE OUTCOME I GUESS U WILL KNOW UR DESICION ALSO!
2006-08-18 08:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by maria32greece 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be careful who you go to talk to things about!!!! They have a way of taking advantage of a vulnerable woman.
2006-08-18 08:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else to talk too, this dudes taking advantage of you, and even though your having troubles with your partner.. all relationships have troubles , relationships are about hard work, deal with it by talking with your partner, communication works wonders!!!
2006-08-18 08:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend what happened, and talk about all the other things you should be discussing.
2006-08-18 08:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋