Bf wants to move to NC?

Question

BF has been talking about moving to NC, we live in cali together. I'm fine with moving there, but he wants to do it too soon, I just need a little time to see if i can transfer from work, pay the last of my bills, pack, make sure we have an apartment when we get there. He doesn't seem to want to wait for me. He wants to leave without me and leave me here alone for a few months. That would break my heart.

I feel very lonely lately, I just can't really tell him. He thinks it's just a problem that I'm having, that doesn't involve him. It's made me depressed for the past few days, he only told me about all of this less than a week ago.

I feel lonely and like he is going to abandon me, and not even care if he left me here or not. He doesn't seem to care if I stay or go, or else wouldn't he wait for me to do what I need to? I feel very sad, and unimportant to him, I don't feel very close. I don't feel or hear anything loving from him lately 'less he's drinking.

How can he leave me behi

Answer 1

Why is he so anxious to move? new job or something?

Moving is hard on a relationship, you should sit down and figure out why exactly he's so anxious to move. Tell him how he's making you feel.. you shouldn't have to keep it bottled in. Hope the best :)

Answer 2

communication. hopefully you both are mature adults. explain how you are feeling and if he has good justification for leaving early and getting things set up then you have to do what is best for both of you. if he doesn't really have justification for leaving soon say tell him you won't move if he leaves without you.

Answer 3

It sounds like he has another agenda waiting for him in NC. You should really think about this before you quit your job or give up your apartment. I think he is trying to bail on you. Don't go messing yourself up to follow him to another state to have him dump you.