I have a very pretty face and a fun personality and though I have a few extra pounds, guys at church don't ask me out. I have traditional morals, don't go to bars and all my friends tell me I'm awesome and beautiful. I thank God for them!
I get asked out in other groups I go to. Even the thin girls don't get dates. I always hear that you'll meet someone when you least expect it, but that's only when you are in college around lots of other singles. You can always meet the wrong guy when you aren't looking too!!
2006-08-17 23:48:09 · 7 answers · asked by starspangledgirl77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not easy for a guy overall to ask out a girl, especially in the church realm. As a Christian and even before I was, I always thought the guy should be the pursuer, while the woman should be the pursued.
Guys honestly do have it hard. First, they have to work up the courage to want to ask a girl out and second, they have to actually ask.
For you ladies, it's as easy as yes or no. I hope you don't take it the wrong way.
Boy #1 asks girl #1 out, he has been waiting months to do so and finally builds up the courage and the confidence. She says, "no". Those two letters, that one word, can shatter any man's self confidence.
It's all about the fear of being rejected - from a guys point of view.
2006-08-18 00:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by bornramblinman 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually you have the wrong attitude. As for single guys not asking girls out at church, think about this. If you both date and then find out that this is not going to work, everyone you know knows you are dating and then there is the potential of friends having to divide to support one side over the other. Broaden your horizons. My husband and I met while swimming at the YMCA and we were in our 30's, so you don't just meet people when you are in college or going to bars. You can meet someone in a lot of places. If you join a group (like one for exercising) that runs marathons or triathlons, you meet men there also. Change your attitude and stop looking and love will find you. God provides when you are truly ready.
2006-08-17 23:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The opening line of a book I read years ago comes to mind. "Life is difficult." And he hadn't even gotten to "fair" yet. It's not fair that thin girls seem to get dates and you don't.
Underneath all the baloney about guys being after sex, and good looking chicks, and beauty, there is a truth that you can take to the bank. Men, good solid men, want partners in a give and take relationship where the needs of both are met, neither is unsupported, and where they provide each other a good place to fall when things don't go well. Be prepared to meet the needs of others (be ready to listen, sympathize, understand, help) and be ready to state and have your needs met also. I'd think you could be irrestible.
2006-08-18 00:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A church is where u pray to the Lord n not to date.Many people does tat is a wrong way but U can ask a gal if u r out from church.Some guys always c her phisical but never look at inner part.Well good luck in getting a guy.Y not try to talk wit the guys frenly
2006-08-18 00:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Frendlygal 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like your sitting waiting for someone to ask you out.
Hint. Start flirting with guy you might like. If something happens then great if not move flirting to the next.
2006-08-17 23:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should introduce yourself, i tried asking a girl out from church years ago and youd think i met her in a dark alley the way she acted - maybe it was just her
2006-08-17 23:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by phur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right person hasnt come along
2006-08-17 23:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by luvdoctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋