sex in a new relationship?

Question

i am just entering a new relationship. i dont want an answer like - whatever feels right please.

1 - when do people usually start having sex with a new partner
2 - what is acceptable/ normal the first time?

Answer 1

1- usually they do it the first time, or the second time, well maybe the third time?
2- fisrt time SM , bondage etc....

Now seriously , are you sure you have feelings for him for the first time? You really get to know him that well from the very first time? If so hun you are free to do it whenever you want to!!!

Answer 2

I am a guy and I would say the old rule of the third date a pretty good rule and more time than that the guy might start to lose interest. I know girls don't want to hear that but I am just telling you the truth.

But it all really depends on the situation, but if you are into the guy and feel like doing it then do it.

If you like him and want to do it but are not doing it because you want to meet some time limit set by other people then you are not being honest with the guy or yourself.

The best first time I ever had with a girl was because she did something REALLY cool. She sent me an email the day before our 4th date and said that what she wanted to do for our 4th date order pizza after we made love at my place... and that is what she did... she dress for the evening came over and we were in bed within 5 minutes playing and as she wanted a few hours later we ordered pizza and ate it in bed feeling more like we were bad little toads for eating in bed than for just making love.

Answer 3

When you decide to have sex is really up to you, unless you're under 18, in which case it's when you turn 18 (sorry, had to throw a little legal disclaimer in there). I've had sex with girls I've just met. I've had one night stands, 2 week flings, etc. I've also been in relationships for months without having sex.

Some people believe that if you want to have a long serious relationship you have to hold out and establish the relationship first. I really disagree with that idea. I think sex is important, and that it's actually better to know if you are sexually compatible with your partner before you go to far.

Others believe (usually girls) that if they have sex the other person will leave. They worry that he will have gotten what he wanted and be done with them. I think that's an irrational fear. If you want to have sex, go for it. If you don't want to, don't. Remember, it's for you to enjoy as well. If the guy leaves after you've had sex just remember that you wanted it too, and you got what you wanted. Most guys aren't like that, though. If a guy is really in to you he's going to stick around after you've had sex and try to come back for more. We call that dating.

Answer 4

Don't rush. It will alter the course of how the relationship will develop. Make him want you. Make him work for your love. As soon as you give it up, everything changes. You want to establish a good foundation for your developing relationship. Yes, we all know sex is an important part of any normal healthy relationship, but that is not how you want to start it off. You will know when you are ready. The feelings a new relationship give you can cloud your judgement and unfortunately hormones can take over and rule your decisions. Just be SURE. Because remember you can never go back and start over. First impressions are very important. Don't underestimate or undervalue yourself. You are worth waiting for. Good luck.

Answer 5

I did this with my current relationship. I have a phycology teacher that thought me the 90 day rule. You wait 90 days to have sex with the person. Within those 90 days you can really get to know a person and find out if they are the right person to keep pursuing the relationship with. I tried it with my current relationship for the first time, and it really does make a difference, because during that time you are in the getting to know each other stage and all is nice and dandy, but after the 90 days you never know and the claws come out. Also with all the diseases out there you really need to take more precaution.

Answer 6

not the first date,,,wait for 2 or 3 dates at least, depends how well you get to know each other, talk about it, and make sure that you are compatable, find out what he likes and tell him what you like and don't like, that way there are no suprises that first time, and the talking about will make it that much better the first time. tell him that you want to wait until the 3rd or 4th date, or later if you wish, just tell him that and see how he reacts, if he gets upset, then that is all he was after and would have dumped you after he got it, so making him wait a little is a good way to see how intrested he is...and he will respect you more if you make him wait a little,, but not too long, if you decide that you are seeing each other only, then that is the time for sex...and make it good, if you want to keep him....

Answer 7

As with everything....it depends. Your age for example. Are you of age to have sex? in California it's 18. This differs from state to state. Let's say your 18 for the sake of argument. You need to ask yourself whet you want out of sex. For men it's getting off. For women, jeez, where do I start?!? You should in counter sex with someone who is into normal sex. When I mean normal I mean simple intercourse with foreplay . Key note about most men: we give the illusion of love for sex. This is not always true, but for the most part is. Girls from a very young age are mislead into believing that they need to find prince charming who will romance them away to some wonderland. WRONG. Some men are gentlemen, but most are dogs. What do male dogs love to do the most? Mate with every female dog in sight. Sorry, no simple answer to your very good and complex question. The best I can tell you is... think every man is a dog until he shows you otherwise. Don't hold out too long on him or he'll go find someone else. And he will! I could go on but I'm tired. I'm always willing to discuss or debate this in a calm (lol) manner if you or anyone else would like. What is acceptable for the first time? Sex with some give and take oral.

Answer 8

these day anything goes as long as the feeling is mutual you hang yourself. the normal way of looking at things is wait a while,sus the guy out ,see if he is for real then go ahead and do the deed. actually he cannot wait and niether can you so decide. acceptable--- these days ;lets get down and dirty

Answer 9

That's going to depend on the people involved and what they're looking for in the relationship. Personally, it would takes months and a monogamous relationship to get me into bed.

Answer 10

On the second date