Well 2 years ago, my mum and my step-dad broke up, and not too long after we made friends with this guy Jeff and his son, who lived two doors down from us who had also broken up with his wife. He was a total alcoholic (still is) and it wasn't long till he moved in with us and his son and my sister hooked up, so they're living down at Jeff's old place. Anyways ever since he's been living here he's made my life a living hell. He calls me names like I'm stupid, worthless, lazy and tells me I've got nothing to live for. Last time we had a fight he was all "I've got more money than you". And so I replied, "So you should, you're 58." and so he said "I'll always have more money than you." So I laughed and said, "You wish". I went outside and he followed me (aka stalked), with his fists balled and started yelling at me about this crap. I told mum and she keeps telling me he's gonna leave soon, but he never does. What can I do to ignore him till I can get the money together to rent a house?
2006-08-17 23:32:33 · 11 answers · asked by Zemphyra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry you have to go through this. You can't "ignore" him. Doesn't work that way because he's got to be interrupting your life and controlling others through his behavior. It's part of the disease or the way he gets his jollies. You're right, he's dishing out abuse. Here is a number you can call if you are in the US: 1-800-4-ACHILD Call them. Depends on your age but I would encourage you to call child protective services. It's drastic BUT the damage this turkey is doing is beyond calculation and the effects are VERY long lived.
2006-08-18 00:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with an alcoholic is extremely difficult. If there are any al-anon places near you, contact them.
Remember, it takes two to fight. If it's possible, ignore him. Don't let him pull you into an argument.If he insists on arguing with you, answer him with short and to the point answers.
Most alcoholics have very low self esteem and they try to make other people feel as miserable as they do. Don't ever believe that you're worthless, stupid, lazy, etc........
Don't give him the power to hurt you!
2006-08-17 23:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any relatives who live close to you, you can try moving with them until you save up the money to move out on your own.
Al-Anon is very helpful or Al-Ateen, whichever one you need is very helpful you can look it up on yahoo search or any search engine.
Pray and keep yourself occupied so that he will not have a chance to bug you, if you are at home and he is there, read a book or do something where your mind will be submersed in something else, that is positive. Good Luck!
2006-08-17 23:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by caramel_angelkiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go buy a can of mace. Keep it in your pocket. He might will try to do something to you. Be ready. Fuc* him up. Then call the cops to him. In the mean time do'nt argue with him. You are bringing trouble on yourself. You cant win an argument with a drunk .If what you say about him is true' He is a sorry white trash drunk. Just be ready. 1other thing don't take no shi* off him. He is nothing!
2006-08-17 23:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing i have learnt in life dont wait fr the other person to make the move u work on makin the first move, i dunno how old u are but maybe u can get a job, and if u cannot move to rent yr own apartment just look fr pg accomadation, if u dont, u will still be hoping hell move out, yr life will pass u by , yll get frustrated and the whoe situation can just blow up badly so get yr act together, sit diwn with yr mum,talk to her heart to heart, and then deceide .good luck.
2006-08-18 00:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by haboba13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with you mother about him. If he is abusing you can you imagine what he is doing to HER? you need to let someone know what is happening .. try to stay as much out of his way as you can while this is going on but do seek local help for it
I wish you all the best
Be Safe
2006-08-17 23:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My god. This man is a total jerk and sounds creepy-city.
Alcoholics are scum (In my humble opinion). They project all their uselessness on to others. They know deep inside that they are losers and hate to see others who are worthwhile. They suffer from an almost pathological jealousy of others, but instead of striving to change, they wallow in it and blame it all on everyone else.
Perhaps resist the urge to wind him up if you can. Wait until you have moved out. If he's stalking you, he could get nastier still and it's just not worth it.
He's the weak-willed idiot, not you.
2006-08-17 23:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by medium_of_dance 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be strong, don't give up to his sorrys. I know how alcoholics are, they yell and scream at you until you give up, then they come back crying or laughing, or in some cases both to say sorry. Don't listen to him. You're a woman be strong!
Be Safe!
Dragonheart
2006-08-18 00:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Dragonheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can find an Al-Anon meeting near you and go to it. Its for people affected by an alcoholic.
2006-08-17 23:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Crabboy4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is not going to move-on then it's best you plan to do so as soon as you can before things turn really nasty.
2006-08-17 23:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋