Was here a few wks ago, the one w/ the moody b/f? Have not spoken to each other from the last time I tried texting him. Its been ok for me actually. No urges to call or anything. This means its over right? Or should I hang on a bit until he spells it out for me? Reason I ask is coz I wanna know when I can get my life back. I still have feelings for him and I need to get to a space where I can start dating other people and helping myself get over him. I think I may be pushing people away coz maybe I’m still hoping we might get back together and I don’t wanna be the one who messed it up. Last wk, I was feeling so in control of the situation but I don’t know if I can hold on any longer w/out having a nervous breakdown. There’s a VERY nice guy I know and he’s been calling e/day and asking me out, but I’m still kinda hooked on the jerk. Would it be cheating if I went out w/ another guy when my relationship hasn’t been officially declared over? I am so confused and need help PLS!
2006-08-17 23:21:21 · 22 answers · asked by Gypsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd txt the jerk and tell him that since he's ignoring you, you need to start getting your life back together and are going to start dating again. If he doesn't respond then obviously it is over. Nice guys are hard to come by so don't push others away just because you are unsure of a situation. It isn't cheating if you go on a date with another, if your "b.f" hasn't spoken with you for quite awhile. That is unhealthy indeed and you need to move on sweety. =)
2006-08-17 23:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems like quite a dilema. But what you might have to ask yourself is whether you are happy with the current situation, and by the sound of it you are not.
OK, let him know how you feel about it and define the kind of relationship you want. If that does not go well after a while then let him know that you are moving on. But be sure that he is not seeing someone else or just trying to play games, so you take control of the situation, therefore if anyone is gonna get hurt it wont be you.
Good Luck!
2006-08-17 23:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by madabout_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sad story....
firstly you seem like a very down to earth kind of gal (this sounded better in my head) but very sweet and if this jerk you've been seeing doesn't see this then its his loss...
you shouldnt be focusing on your feelings for the jerk but your feelings for the new people in your life, the fun ones that make you smile..
Officially declaring a relationship is over is an odd concept. Do you need to have that steaming row or the teary sat on the bed chat (experience is a ******)? Or do you just accept like it seems he has that things have died and you can get on with your life....
Seriously hope that things get better, dont get down and dont focus on the loser, there are nice guys out there....
All the Best
M x
p.s if you think its cheating then you ring him (or txt) and tell him it is over.............. take control you'll feel better.
2006-08-17 23:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Messy20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must not deceive you i am in the same predicament with you. The only difference is that you are she i am he. As at yesterday i text no reply i call with my phone she wont pick it, if from another number she will not talk to me and not cut the line.
But yesterday i resolve to go into a seven day prayer and fasting to ask God to send her back to me within seven day if we are meant for each other but if not get me a better replacement immediately after the prayer.
I will advise you adopt the same process and there after follow God guidance
2006-08-18 00:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kumar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first we need to set a definiton of cheating. If we agree that cheating is breaking a commitment to either yourself and/or your bf, by doing anything you both would disapprove of, my understanding is no. The only one who knows is you. If he was going out with another girl would you view it as cheating. You need to focus on the issue at hand. I also think you need to tell the "nice guy" exactly what is going on so he isnt blindsided by anything. If you feel it is cheating then it probably is otherwise...
2006-08-17 23:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by ipoddironeus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your boyfriend is Australian and has gone on a "walk-a-bout" I would say that it is over between you and he just hasn't had the balls to face you about it.. I don't see anything wrong with going out with this other guy, but you might want to let him know you just recently broke up with your ex and are not completely over him yet. Go slowly at first until your comfortable with yourself and this new guy..
2006-08-17 23:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, dont date anyone, until you find out for sure that your relationship is officially over, but i think you might be on the rebound, stay single for a while, u dont want 2 rush into things.
2006-08-17 23:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, until the old relationship is officially over i would consider it cheating. Just tell the Jerk that its over then get together with New man!!
2006-08-17 23:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by robmurfitts 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. you said few weeks ago. He didn't call. And a nice guy is here for you. you need my friend to start over, go ahead u are not commiting a crime. If he is still interrested he must contact you as soon as possible.
2006-08-17 23:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hadn't had any urges whatsoever to pick up a phone and call him, then you aren't wanting to get back together. If I were you, I would tell him it's off and move on with your life.
2006-08-17 23:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Erica S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋