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Question

Can you tell if a women has given birth when you have sex
Reason I am asking is I met this great woman and we might move in together and get engaged.But someone told me that she has 2 kids and left them with her ex and never contacted them again
I confronted her and she told me it was an absolute lie.so I told her I believe her....but I cannot help but have my suspicions so maybe I can tell through intercourse if she has had kids .IF i found out she has kids that she abandoned than i don't want to be with someone like that...So can you tell if a women has given birth before??

Answer 1

OH MY GOD! YOU DIVERTED THIS QUESTION TO THE WRONG GENDER SWEETY!.....so......how many of these men who are confidently answering this question about the physical changes after birth have ACTUALLY given birth??? Ask women!!!.. And the 'J' thing, what the hell is that all about? Not every women get stretch marks....and stick a tube of tooth paste in her vagina and ask her to push!!!! Oh my god!!! Lets stick a tube of toothpaste up ya *** and ask you to push!!!!! Anyone heard of pelvic exercises??? pregnant women are advised to do them after birth to tighten muscles and bits back up, not all nipples change colour or shape, yes hips widen but not like Avid Marrions take off of Trisha!!

Every woman's physical changes during and after pregnancy are different.

You only heard she might have kids, do u know the correct reasons she left them behind IF she does have them? If this is how you've reacted on asking her about having kids, i'm not suprised she's denying it IF she does have kids.

Dont base your life on 'someone told me', cos you'll regret ya hold backs later on.

Good luck, and ease off the poor woman, has it actually occurred to you that she might actually be telling the truth???

Answer 2

Ok hold up some of this stuff is wrong, Ive had 2 kids I have not one strech mark Im skinner know then I was before I had kids my nipples arent brown eighter and as far as a j scar, that is from when a woman has had to be cut while giving birth or she has torn, that dosent happen to everyone I never ripped or had to be cut.

If you really want to know if she has kids you should have a web site for the clerk of courts in you area, go on that web site and you should be able to do a public record search on her and youll find the truth out right their, If she has been to court to give her kids up you will be able to find that information out online!!!

Dont go on physical there are lots of women out there who have had kids and look like they never did everyones body is diffrent.

Answer 3

yes, a womans body changes quite a bit after she has given birth. I've never quite been able to put my finger on exactly what it is. Her belly skin can get looser or she can have stretch marks around her stomach, the position of her hips shifts and they seem to tilt forward a little more, her breasts may lose some of their youthful perkiness, and a beaver that's passed a baby through it is never quite as tight as that of a woman who has never given birth, regardless of how many kegel excercises she does. The younger she was when she gave birth the more completely her body will recover genreally speaking. There are more things too, and I think there are probably more concrete signs you can look for, too. That's the best I can do from my own observations, though.

Answer 4

As a generalisation, yes - it tends to be a pretty noticeable difference sensation wise. Women are largely unaware of this and/or deny it, but as a guy, it's there.

But if you're looking for it you might imagine it, especially if you're not sure what you're looking for. Not to mention the fact that having sex with her to find out if she's lying about having had kids has to be about the most f*%ked up thing imaginable in terms of a healthy relationship. How about you find someone you don't have these kind of trust issues with instead? Getting engaged/married to someone you distrust this much on such a massive issue is a trainwreck waiting to happen.

Answer 5

the first thing you should ask yourself is it important? But to answer you if she has had a natural birth then it will never be tight again unless she gets surgery. If she is a bit kinky do the toothpaste test, get a full tube and insert it while she is standing up and tell her to tense the muscles cause you want to see if she can squeeze the paste out. If you know how to mack then you will have no problems here, if she can't do it then you can start to be doubtful, if it falls out without being pushed out then you can question but to be honest it's very rear for a women to just leave her kids. At the end of the day i may have got it all wrong but you can always check out www.rawpsy.com

Answer 6

If you don't trust her already, don't marry her. People may say her vagina is bigger after birth, but unless you measured it before she had kids, there is no way to tell. You say she's a great woman, yet you have these terrible suspicions about something very serious. Obviously, she is not the one for you.

Answer 7

u need to ask women this lol they is no way of telling unless u are a doctor. as for the j scare u only get that if u tear down below I've got a son my nipples are the same. some women get stretch marks even without having a baby and as for the size of the Virgina it goes back down to it normal size within 1-2months

Answer 8

Unless you are a Dr you will never know for sure. Some women's bodies show no obvious effects of childbirth. If you have no trust, which you obviously don't, then the relationship is doomed anyway so stop wasting her and your time. Don't believe any of the nonsense answers about darkened nipples and so on, it really is all men who know nothing rubbish.

Answer 9

Sorry man ther is no way to determine that. If you like the woman and you are in love with her and she is legaly divorced then what is the problem. Why you want to know if she has given birth to a child before or not.

Answer 10

If you want to have a serious relationship with her, get to know her friends and family. See how they relate with each other. Unless she has given birth within a few weeks, you won't be able to tell whether or not that she has had kids or not. How well do you know this person and how well does this person know your "girl friend"?