my little boy bites and pinches and pulls hair, not always in frustration but excitement too, he is big for his age and i cant have him doing this with other kids,i keep saying no and put him down when he does it but its not stopped him. any ideas?
2006-08-17 22:03:41 · 18 answers · asked by lisa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He bites or pinches, you bite or pinch him every time he does it. It will take a couple of times but he will get the message..... I hope this helps you, it did me when my kid went through the same.period.. I hope this helps.... Good Luck..
2006-08-17 22:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The is something most every baby does at some point. It's completely normal, but NOT proper behavior. Hitting or biting the child back is definately not the thing to do. So, what do we do about it?
When he bites or pulls your hair, telling him no is good, but you have to say it in a serious and firm tone. NO! Then put him down. For some toddlers, like my oldest when he pulled my hair, saying OW! and showing a very sad response so they know it hurt you, causes them to feel sorry for what they did. The oldest only tried it twice and felt so bad about 'hurting' me, he never did it again.
You have to let him know biting, pinching or pulling hair isn't acceptable behavior, period. Be firm. He will grow out of it. Teaching him to communicate his frustrations and how to channel feelings is part of parenting.
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2006-08-18 00:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly; I've heard many parents try saying no and time out etc but the one big thing i've heard parent after parent tell me stopped their child from biting and that was to bite them when they bit someone else. I know its a horrible thing to do but it teaches them that biting hurts and when they bite and hurt someone; they will have the same thing done back. His size isn't a contribution. Its just frustration at not being able to communicate what he wants. Maybe teaching him some basic sign language for words like Stop, more, please etc may ease his frustration at not being able to say what he wants. Good luck.
2006-08-17 22:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally disagree with biting your child back. You're just showing him it's okay to do irrational things when you're hurt, angry, upset, etc. I've been lucky and my son has only done this a few times. When he does it we give him a little smack on the butt and tell him very firmly no and then tell him why he can't bite. You can't be whiny and you can't give in to him. You have to be very firm. Please don't bite your child it's definitely sending the wrong message. Sounds kinda silly but talk to your pediatrician they deal with these things all the time and I'm sure they can give you some advice.
2006-08-18 00:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by NCMOMMAAC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the "old days" corporal punishment always seem to help. Nowadays people just want "to talk it out, maybe it's an emotional issue", or some other lame reason a psychologist may tell you. I'm not saying beat the child, but let him that physical pain begets physical pain.
2006-08-17 22:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by JRB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both my sons went through that phase.. and I bit them both back. Not hard enough to leave any kind of a mark or hurt them at all.. but just enough to show that I meant business. When they cried ( because I hurt their feelings more than anything else) I would tell them " You didn't like it when Mommy bit you did you? It doesn't feel nice when someone bites you. Mommy didn't like it when you bit her. It didn't feel nice." After a few times, they stopped.
2006-08-18 01:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think your on the right path, every time he does these things , let him know it's not acceptable. biting him back isn't really going to help in the long run, even though it's tempting.maybe encourage him to clap his hands or do a little dance when he is excited, You can teach him this by doing this yourself..lol it won'thappen over night, it's something he needs to learn to control and that takes time.
2006-08-18 00:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son bit me on the shoulder a couple of times at this age (to them it makes you pull a real funny face and is quite funny) I gave him a smack to the bum (he wore cloth nappies so it didn't really hurt. I then put him down with a loud NO! He cried and I didn't pick him up.
Another idea is if he does it to another child you give that child all your attention and ignore yours
2006-08-17 23:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite, pinch and pull his hair back. Eventually he will get it and stop.
2006-08-18 01:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by geminiblue26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard but bite him back he needs to know what it feels like. my Lil sis had that problem ween she was Lil mom did the timeout thing till she took and chunk out my Lil sis back and had to be take in to the hospital. mom bit her back before she took my Lil sister to the hospital it broke her of biting. you don't do something now it going to get worse. something with the pulling hair and pinching you have to show them what it feels like i am not saying pull there hair out,pinch them hard just hard enough they know what it feels like some with bitting just hard enough to know what it feels like and it well stop.
2006-08-17 22:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋