In front of your waiter, while you're ordering, when you're in your mid-20s?
2006-08-17 20:53:48 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Then parents wonder WHY we turn out the way we do. It is directly because of their upbringing!
2006-08-17 20:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether it is strange or not, it's belittling, and it was done for a reason. Next time he does something like that, don't address the words he is saying - instead, just say, "what deep need are you serving by belittling me here in a public place?" Refuse to talk about whatever he is trying to talk about, until he answers that question. If he won't, and keeps doing it, don't tolerate it. Tell him you demand to be treated better, stand up, and leave.
2006-08-21 18:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mark L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if you're in your mid 20's and your father can still push your buttons that way then there's just as much wrong with you as with your dad for doing that to you.
Then again, dad's can be pretty slow to figure out that their kid's grown up. Maybe it's the only way he knows how to talk to you? Go have a real grown up conversation with your dad and see if he stops thinking of you as a kid.
2006-08-17 21:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by spindoccc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite often parents have a hard time realizing that your an adult, and often think of you like your still one of there little kids. I guess in your case it would depend on what he was talking about.. even some adults still need a dose of reality now and then. Yes I do think what he did was rude, but that doesn't mean it didn't need to be done. I would take a step back and try to understand what he was trying to get across to you and if you figure that he was way out of line, talk to him about it, be an adult and stand up for yourself. Let him know he was out of line.. If not.. well...
2006-08-17 21:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to have the "lets at least show each other respect in public " Talk with your dad and watch your tone of voice as well. Sometimes it is just a poison that spreads.
2006-08-17 20:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by goneblonde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is telling you to talk to him and to tell him to knock it off. Actually good advice, but initially it will cause a stir. The old man likes to be the bull of the woods and I somehow suspect you would prefer to avoid the discussion. In that case find someone else to go to dinner with.
2006-08-25 18:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is! If this is so, Your father needs to learn Respect. Because you are his child, doesn't give him the right to demean you in public. Dirty Laundry should be kept behind closed doors, not for the Public to make judgment calls about whats happening on your table. Tell your Father to Grow Up and Learn to Respect others, if he wants Respect in Return. Thanks for asking. Aloha from Hawaii
2006-08-25 18:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by rechsteiner1986 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. It is strange and mean to be talked to in an condescending way by anyone.
2006-08-24 15:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by nicholasgift.com 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh, I'm still putting up with it in my mid-30s!
Yes, it's strange, and it sucks. Some things you gotta just ignore.
2006-08-25 15:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by fogofwarcat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes... but parents often forget you're over the age of 2.
Maybe remind him quietly sometime in private.
2006-08-17 20:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Kitia_98 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey HOTTIE! Yeah, and this is like the tenth question I've answered of yours. If your under 16 give me a shot. LOL.
2006-08-25 18:54:56 · answer #11 · answered by DontMessWitMyBF 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋