what should i do?

Question

me and my bf broke up we went out for a year and he told me he was cheating on me the whole time and the girl he was cheating on me with was fuckn him the whole summer he said he only went out with me cause him and his gf was n at fight and he wanted to make her mad he said he only stayed with me cause he did not want his friend to go out with me he messd up my life and all i have done is lay n bed and cry i cant sleep eat anything all i do is sit n the dark and cry i dont no what to do some one help me

Answer 1

I'm really sorry that happened to you. That was awful, mean and completely unfair.

And while it's true he may have ruined a lot of your time, staying in bed and moping about it is only going to let him ruin even more of your time and your life.

As hard as it might be, you need to go forward. You need to let him go and you need to show him he has no power over you. He hasn't won.

He is a loser and you are better off without him. Now that he's gone consider it a favour.

Answer 2

This is really pain in the worst way, to find out someone was just using you, as you were just a piece of trash. You feel worthless, ashamed, stupid, well there is a bright day coming, just read on. .

You made a mistake and that is that. A lot of people make mistakes, far worse than this. This little piece of crap is bragging to you that he mislead you, lied to you, cheated on you, didn't care about you. You know, just chalk it up to a big mistake and do not get down on his level. You are worth a lot, a lot more than he is. Just tell yourself that you are good, loving, and deserve so much better, and that you will never made this mistake again. How do you do that? Well, usually if it looks, and acts too good, and says stuff that is too good to be real, then it usually isn't. This might have given you a real lesson on life, and one you can learn from as there are many beautiful faces, but down right evil underneath it all. Be wise, look for sincereity, humility integrity, those type of things. You have to be smart and not so gullible. Don't beat up on yourself.

God let you see what a jerk is like, and you will hopefully recognize one from your experience. What if you had married someone like this, just make sure that you don't. Look, you only went with the guy, and did not wind up marrying him, thank the Lord. You will find the right one, just take your time getting to know them, and ask questions and study their face, and eyes, you will eventually be able to see deceipt if you try. Do not see these people through rose colored glasses. Know what you are up against, and it is Satan, and yes He does exist, and does play games like this to make you feel low.

Anyway, so pick yourself back up, and get down on your knees and pray that the Lord will help you, and come into your heart, and guide you. Just ask, and He will come. He will give you the strength to overcome this, and recognize what lead you down the wrong path, just a really insensitive, cruel person. You are done with him and just go out and celebrate im being out of your life, and you did not get pregnant by him.

Look at it as if you had a bad case of acne, and it cleared up, the bad stuff came out.
Get out of the dark, take a nice walk, smell the wonderful air, and be with your friends. Get out and have some fun, you need your friends now, so just don't drown in your own self pity, now go do something fun, the more you sit in the dark, the longer it will stay with you. He is not worth it.

Answer 3

The first time this happened to me I felt like I was in shock, sick to my stomach, etc. The best revenge is living well yourself. It is hard, yes but really the only thing you can do. Stay out of relationships for a while, rebounds are not good. Remember, you have to take care of yourself. Talk to friends, the real ones about this. You must get it out of your system so that you can have a relationship later in life. The most important thing is to move on and take it slow. You are worth it.

Answer 4

This happens a lot. Let your emotions flow, cry for a while. He did something really mean to, just make sure you don't let him do it ever again. Believe it or not though, time does heel all broken hearts. When your ready, call a friend and ask them to go out on the town with you and start living life again. You will see that you can live again...

Answer 5

Sweetie, the best thing to do is dry those eyes and move on! He was an ****** for sure and I'm sorry he did that to you. But the fact that you are crying over this bs is only giving him more strangth. He will get his in the end. You need to just live and learn. There is someone out there who will treat you right.

Answer 6

Just be glad it's the first time and not the second. Try to make it your only time. Watch out, people will decieve you. My brother got conned for 2 years in an internet relationship and she was playing the whole time. I recently had that happen to me, your story. Pick up the pieces and use that hate to make something constructive. I got into shape because I had so much anger. I lost weight and picked up someone hotter!

Answer 7

Hard situation ,, so sorry but he is a true creep and although you know he did not do right by you it still hurts. But listen ,,, Living well and being happy is the best revenge believe me ...Just get up and pretend you feel ok and out of habit after a while you will. Best wishes .. sounds like you deserve sooo much better.

Answer 8

Galfriend life is too short to cry yourself to death. Fine, he messed u up, it was fate. that experience is supposed to bring out the strong woman in u who can handle situations. its not easy i know, but get a grip on urself and get on with life. I was messed up at once, but i got to my feet n said no one will ever do that to me again. i healed n the guy cudnt handle the guilt coz i gave him a piece of my mind.
Show him u dont need him to get on with ur life. B4 u met him everything was ok righ, pretend u never met him

C'mon, a woman has more inner strength than a man. U gonna be ok,.... Get up in the morning, tell urself no one will step on u unless u allow em, look in the mirror n say "am beautiful, fearfully made and I ROCK"... think positively.... do what u enjoy doing, look good.

Take care...hope u get my advise.

one more thing, dont sit there having a pity party with no food coz baby he aint worth a drop of yo tear!

Answer 9

Oh, relax, take it easy. I mean, he fooled with you, so shame on him. Pick yourself up, he's an idiot. You know, he really is an idiot, whatever the reasons for his going out with you, and ending it, he had no reason to insult you so. Anyway, you will survive, and move on. Laying in bed and crying is OK for a while, and it will pass. Go out with other friends - don't sever your connections with other people while you are miserable, friends do help.

Good luck, and sorry that you had to come across such an... whatever.

Answer 10

Hon, you really need to move on. seriously, you don't need a bf to show you your worth. I mean come on, he basically said he would've been jealous if his friend went out with you. He's a jerk, and deserves to die a fiery death, but since that last bit probably won't happen, he's still a jerk, and you need to just forget about him and realize that there's at least one guy who would date you for you, this guy's friend! you go girl! hang in there! You'll be okay! you don't need this a$$hole to survive. You got everything you need right there inside of you. Now, go eat a big a$$ piece of chocolate cake and I hope you feel better :)