abusive boyfriend.?

Question

I just ask a q earlier...I know i should leave, but where? I mean I push him after he hits me so I don't think I can call the police. I yell at him too...He makes me feel like everyhting is my fault. The police didn't belive me b4 when he pushed me in to a table, and i had bruses. HELP

Answer 1

you need to tell him to stay away and not contact with you.
when you tell him have someone with you. maybe a good friend who is a guy.

good luck

Answer 2

I am going to assume you don't want to be abused. If you do, all bets are off...

Relatives, if they are supportive, are frequently the best choice. Look in the front of your phone book, there should be a section for Community Service Numbers. Look for a section for Women. If there isn't a Domestic Violence Hotline, or something like that, call the YWCA. Or call your local welfare department, and ask who can help. Most communities of any size have a shelter, where you can get away from him until you can handle things on your own.

If he hits you or grabs you and leaves marks, call the police. Show them the marks. They will take action, but they need evidence they can see. Have a place to go, and be gone when he gets out of jail.

You need to do something before you are pregnant again. Last thing you want is to have kids for this guy to abuse.

Answer 3

WHY ARE YOU WAITING? It is obvious you think he will do this again.. Once it starts it never gets better. And now while you can go anywhere but there. Do you have a friend you can move in wiith untill you can rework your life to stand on your own? Family you can turn to? I know it sounds like somewhere you don't want to go but every city has forming or already formed a domestic violence shelter where you really can get some good advise and protection and help. This is what they are there for.. And don't feel bad. Abuse slips in quietly on little kitten's feet and curls up in your lap. But if you get up to do your thing it rears it's ugly fangs and slices thru your self esteem and it would be unnatural to not smack back at it. Go now before you are so frozen that you become the abuse and loose yourself. Hurry.

Answer 4

I didn't read your previous question. I will guess that you have insufficient income - not a good enough job - to be able to go off on your own, or at least separate from your boyfriend. I assume it, because that seems to be one of the important reasons why abused women stay with their spouses or bfs. You're essentially trapped with few options. Men know that and can feel reasonably secure that she won't leave, or if she does, she'll be back. And if you do have sufficient income, then you do yourself a favor by living elsewhere, cutting contact with him, seek new avenues of happiness even if doesn't include another man in your life right now.

Answer 5

I'm only 18 and I don't have much dating experiences but I know enough about violence to answer your question. I grew up in a domestically violent household. my dad used to do some of the things you described to my mom. I don't think he ever hit me or my siblings but i used to watch him abuse my mother and i would feel so helpless. I felt guilty for not stopping it. But anyways. In my opinion i think you should kick him to the curve. When he hits you and you push him that is self defense and you can call the cops. I know the cops can be real jerks but you have to try. Only you can stop this. Get rid of that jerk. He doesn't deserve a girlfriend. Get out of this relationship. this type of relationship is dangerous to your health and well-being. Physical abuse as well as emotional abuse is all about power and control. He wants to feel like he owns and has complete control over your mind and body. Victims of physical abuse are afraid to rebel against their partner and in a word become the abuser's "property." Chances are if he hits you once, it's going to happen again. A lot of times when someone is physically abused the abuser will apologize and make false promises not to do it again. He might give you flowers or gifts but this show of affection and remorse is false and must not be taken seriously. A man who abuses woman or child is not a man but a coward in my opinion. But like I said only you can stop this. Remember forgive and forget, relive and regret.

Answer 6

well I've been a victim my whole life(relationship wise) and I have discovered that there was only one thing left to do..... I got violent back. My ex tried to attack me and I grabbed a closet hanging pole and hit his hands as hard as I could until he thought they were broke and ran away crying. Then I proceeded to grab his phone along with a hammer and smash up his phone like he did with at least 6 of mine. Then I grabbed about $100.00 out of his wallet and 2 lottery tickets(unscratched) and was off. Since that day he hasn't put his hands on me but he will put a gun in my face. But somehow that doesn't scare me either. To make a long story short,it just gets crazier, and most woman are in prison because they got fed up with the abuse and finally did something about it,I had another ex(father of my oldest child) who was so mean, I had to run out of the house screaming for someone to help me,and all I wanted to do was go to the store. I ended up putting him in jail for 7 months over a kidnapping and several pictures of what he had done to me. You will end up crazy if you don't get rid of this problem,and most guys like that cheat worse than any other,trust me.

Answer 7

Get a restraining order on him. No woman should take any kind of abuse from anyone, let a lone a guy. Leave him and never look back or it is going to become a continuing thing.

Answer 8

get out of there and put as much distance between him and you as possible, also i recommend getting a digital camera, or disposable camera to use to document any marks he might leave on you that way you have proof that he's doing this to you....you deserve way better than this slime ball, i'd volunteer to kick his teeth down his throat for you but he isnt worth the energy...he's the kind of guy that will end up alone and very very bitter...but just do yourself a favor GET OUT NOW!!!!!

Answer 9

just get away from him he no good try to stay with a family member or a friend until you get you get your life togther because if hit you once then it will get worse trust me it never gets better...

Answer 10

you better leave girl because he will not stop go to your church or family what ever it takes move on theres to many good people out there hang in there