My boyfriend abused me...?

Question

I've been dating this guy for like a year. We always have fights..well not always. Anyway I grew up in bad childhood..abusive parents. And so I see a therapist now cuz I have anger problems. My boyfriend hit me today and was making fun of me for seeing a hteraoist and stuff like that. what should i do. Please help.

Answer 1

This is the worst thing. Hitting you is THE last straw. It is unacceptable. He can have NO more chances. It only escalates from here.
The awful verbal abuse is intolerable. You must save yourself before he drags you down and you believe you are not deserving of respect.
CALL your therapist right now. Leave a message if you have to .
This is an emergency situation that can not be ignored.
I know it is very sad and hard, get all the support and safety that you can.
Take good care of yourself

Answer 2

First of all, going to a therapist is commendable and states you are trying to get help and to change the path you are and have walked. Good For You! I would think being made fun of is hurtful and it is a selfish move on your bf part. Dear, you do know what to do, you have been abused in some way by family! Ask yourself ( Is this the way I want my life to be lived)? There is something wrong with a man who hits a woman, of course he no doubt tells you it is your own fault he hit you! Ther is no reason for a man to hit a woman or vise/ versa. Well, protecting oneself may lead to that action, however it is not right for you to stay in a relationship that you are being abused. This probably is not the first time he has hit you, pushing you and other ways of physical abuse can be used. Do you think you be in a positive, good self esteem, relationship with him? NO, YOU WILL NOT! He may say he will not do it again, he is so sorry, i love you ! Well let me tell you if he is treating you like this and you stay with him, it will become worse, and you will not like him or yourself. There are places to go in a situation like yours. I have been there and it has been hard work and often painful to leave someone even if he hits or abuses you other ways, let me think, oh yes, we can make excuses for why he did this, you could blame yourself, or maybe you think you will not find another,believe me you will and if you do before you learn why you have made a choice to pick this type of man, you will repeat the pattern again. Get the heck out, you may not get the chance to get out someday. Sure it is hard, but living in this manner is a nightmare! Talk to your therapist, I am sure you will get simular answers. How old are you? Do you work, go to school, or have a trade? You want to think about having a reachable goal, you can attain. Leaving will be hard for awhile, but he knows he can get away with his action and not take responsibility for what he says and does! Keep your self esteem get out while you are able, if he treats you in this manner he has no respect for you!!! Your therapist should have info about where you can get help, you need to know WHYyou allow this to happen, so you will not allow it in the future. Have the stamina to stand up for who you are and who you want to be, there is no future with this guy! YOU CAN DO IT, GET A SUPPORT SYSTEM, JUST MAKE A PLAN OR JUST LEAVE NOW, HE DOES NOT HAVE TO KNOW YOU ARE LEAVING. If you do CHOOSE to leave, do not have any contact with him, you are in a vulnerable place, which makes it easy to be hurt and make unhealthy decisions! BEST OF LUCK!

Answer 3

LEAVE! I was in an abusive relationship for like 3 years and I promise it only gets harder the longer stay. We went out all together for 5 years. At first, ofcourse he was sweet and all that jazz but he took my sweetness for weakness. I didn't have a good self esteem either and he took advantage of that. It started out as verbal abuse and moved up to physical. When my *** got thrown out of a moving car I knew it was going to be him or me 6 feet under so I left and it was hard but I promise it was the best thing I have ever done in my life! You don't have to put up with that s h i t! There is nothing wrong with seeing a tharapist. If anything it is good! That is why they have jobs because people have problems and they can't always work through them alone. You need support and you need to be surrounded by love! You are special and beautiful. You don't deserve negative treatment. If you think you have no where to go...you are wrong, that is what I thought and why I stayed so long. I used to try and smoke/ drink away my problems but it only made **** worse. GET OUT!!! Sorry, I just don't want poeple to go through what I've been through. Love yourself....and leave him!

Answer 4

The first thing you have to do is love yourself enough to see to it that no harm comes your way. Which means you need to get out of your abusive relationship. I am a Christian man, and although my father isn't, the one thing he did teach me is that a man should never lay hands on a woman. It always confuses me when a man claims to love his woman but constantly beats her. I could be wrong but a fist upside your head doesn't sound like love to me. The thing you have to remember is that you control your own destination. Just because you had a bad childhood and abusive parents does not mean your life or your children's life have to end up that way. You seeing a therapist tells me that you want to make changes and take control of your life. Your so called boyfriend feels threatened because he realizes that you are wising up and won't be putting up with his crap for much longer. You seem to be a beautiful person and you deserve better. However, it is up to you to demand better. You deserve to be in a committed relationship with someone who loves and respects you. If you choose to stay in your current relationship, you will be subjecting yourself to a life of misery and violence. My cousin once had a beautiful wife and would constantly beat her. Her family as well as mine recommended that she get out of the relationship. It took a near fatal beating at the hands of my cousin before she finally realized that enough was enough. I pray that you don't let this happen to you. You are on the road to recovering everything in life that the Lord has for you. Keep seeing your therapist. Lose your boyfriend. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Peace and God bless.

Answer 5

Realize that you have no basis for judging a good relationship, since you say your parents were dysfunctional. Lots of fights is not a great sign. He is hitting you and belittling you. You should not stand for this. If you let it go on, he will wear you down and you will end up like your parents. RUN for your life! Keep talking to that therapist though, you're still accepting abuse and that needs to change.

Answer 6

There is never any excuse to hit a woman, if he hits you beat the living crap out of him. If you cant then report him, dump him, file a restraining order. He is bound to hit you again. You may love him, but no pathetic excuse for a man can love someone they abuse, if they did they would treat you like royalty not scum. He deserves to be alone in a 8x10 cell rotting his life away.

Answer 7

your boyfriend is heartless and inconsiderate and ignorant, my advice is leave him, if cares and has any feelings for you he should be the one to stand by you and help you get through your problems not make fun of you. You don't need more abuse my dear, you need lots of TLC (Tenderness, Love and Care), you need someone understanding and supportive, and that is whom you deserve, and you can find that person if you believe in yourself and realize that you are a wonderful person. I think you should leave him fast, if he hit you and if he made fun of you than he needs more therapy than you do. You deserve better because you are mush better than he can ever be.

Answer 8

i think i've already touched on this one, but i think more guidance is in order....been through the abusive parent thing, kinda happens with an alcoholic father....im ok now for the most part, obviously you werent so fortunate....as for this guy....like i said already...SCUM...GET RID OF HIM....FIND SOMEONE BETTER that will be there for you when you really need him....one that can help you deal with the therapy and anger issues....im 21 now, my father beat me for 3 years until he just left all together....you need to surround yourself with people that care and understand...thats the only way you'll get through this...i have nothing going on other than my job so if you feel that talking about it privately will help i am willing to talk about it with you. you can email me about it sometime if you'd like at [e-mail]

Answer 9

Get some one that you know don't fear him. Have this person help you moved out. Make sure when you leave. That the guy that helps you move. Puts the fear of God in that person. That sissy woman abuser will never touch you again. If you get the right person to help you move. But either way you need to leave.Because it will just get worse now.

Answer 10

First of all you dump his @ss. Then you realize that your abuse was not your fault. If he hit you once he is guaranteed to hit you again. End the cycle now. Find a support group. People who have the same experiences as you. Tell yourself I DESERVE better!!